I admit I have not ever thought of forgiveness as the above definition. What it seems to tell me is that once you feel indifferent to the abuse endured that you are in the state of forgiveness.
What is wrong with not forgiving such horror as I have endured. Isn't okay to just accept it happened and still not forgive the abuser. I have heard that saying 'forgiveness will set you free'. To me it is like saying I do not like what you did but I forgive you so it is okay now that you hurt me. The abuser is then validated. I do not want to validate any abuser.
Those of you reading this what do you think of this definition and am I thinking falsely??
Blessings to all