Pandora's Aquarium: Aloneness - Pandora's Aquarium

Hello bellachai,

I think that everybody interprets experiences differently. Perhaps, to your daughter this would be an example of having a group of people who have all been hurt come to one place to feed on each others pain. But, to you, as you said, it's an entirely different experience. I know that I come here to build on the support and strength of the courageous people surrounding me, and I also come here to share in the pain of others. While healing, pain is almost inevitable - and that's not a reflection of us, it's a reflection of the experience.

I'm glad you're here. I'm glad you're finding using your words to be a helpful outlet. And even if nobody else wants to listen, we're here to listen. You're not alone. I know that sometimes things can feel incredibly isolating, but just remember that you always have this community to fall back on.

Namaste,

Marlee

Thank you Marlee. Blessings to you.

hey bellachai

I know how you feel, about coming here. It has been a huge help to me in my healing to be able to blog, and share with others here in this community. I really feel a sense of belonging, and understanding and support from others. And I always try to give my understanding and support where I can.

I think you're right. It's hard for someone who hasn't been abused to relate, or understand. I think your daughter probably expresses how others might see this site. There may be nothing you can say to change the way she feels about you being here, but I'm sure that doesn't mean she loves you any less.

I also understand how you feel about no one wanting to listen except someone you have to pay. I think it's got to be a really difficult sort of thing to try and deal with, along with any emotions that come from hearing about the abuse someone goes through.

I think maybe it's just because people would rather avoid things that make them uncomfortable or things that are depressing to them. Or maybe they just don't know how to react. I don't think I could hold it against anyone for that.

Anyway, I'm glad you're here along with everyone else.

take gentle care

Hello Missophelia,

Thank you for your reply. I am hoping to help others as I am helped here. It's not that I hold it against those that care about me their inability to listen and/or help it is just saddens me. If I had a car accident and the healing process would be long my family and friends would be here helping me out until I healed. I would heal quicker having this kind of support and help. No worries. BUT alas my healing is due to something not visable and if you cannot see it, it is not real or all just in my head according to my family. Possibly denial or avoidance on their part as it is way too dark for them and I 'should' forget it and go on. Everyone I believe desires understanding, love, caring, helping, and some listening from those who are closest to them. As the survivor we do have to deal with it but those closest to us are sometimes unable or avoid dealing with it. It is confusing to the survivor anyway it is to me.
Blessings

I have been here for almost a year and could not have articulated what you said to your daughter back then, but that has definitely and precisely been my experience, being here at Pandy's and blogging both.

Good Evening Zelda,

Thank you for the reply. I said it to her and like the rest of my family they just don't get it. It is depressing and I pretty much have stopped trying with them. Bless you!!