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Ending a friendshp, it hurts

28 November 2011
Posted by blondie2002  in Friends
My (now former) bff, T and I recently ended our 17 yr friendship all because she accused me of being a "baby" around guys. :tear:/> :huh:/> She also said she doesn't have time to "deal" with my "problems". (Just because I don't have a husband and/or kids, doesn't mean I don't have problems. :angry:/> :glare:/> )

 
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6 Comments On This Entry

This sounds exactly like what happened with me and my former best friend. It is the worst feeling in the world and I felt so betrayed. It was worse than breaking up with a boyfriend. I loved her so much and thought she would have done anything or me. I would have done anything for her and as soon as I was attached, she abandoned me. Called me a cry baby and said she didn't have time for me and couldn't be my therapist. I dont' know that I will ever get over it. I am so sorry this happened to you because I know the pain it causes. I wish I knew what to tell you to make it better. Time doesn't help a whole lot because this happened a year ago and I still miss her so much. But you will grow stronger because of it and you just have to be careful to let yourself trust again when you are ready. This is hard for me because I don't open up easily and my trust is hard to come by, but I know I have to trust again when the right friend comes along.

I am so sorry. I am here if you want to talk. I understand your pain. It is very different and very hard. But you will get through it.

~dmbulan
dmbulan, 29 November 2011 - 07:51 AM
I'm sorry you're friend did that too. I know, this isn't the first time I had a friend abandon me.
blondie2002, 30 November 2011 - 04:56 PM
Yep, about 6 months ago this accured, cut me in 2. still does, recently got a foul email from her husband as i was sick of hearing her comments through others when she ended the friendship and failed to listen to my query in the first place maybe in 30 years they'll hear my side...i found goin away for a while useful, wrote a letter in a bottle threw into the sea...does help move on. but sucks..i played at her wedding! cant forgive her never will.
innerchild, 02 December 2011 - 03:47 PM
I'm so glad I'm not alone. Thanks for the support and takeing the time to read this.
blondie2002, 05 December 2011 - 06:45 AM
maybe this isn't what you were looking to hear... but in my opinion... a "friend" that can say things like that, has a severe amount of growing up to do. Being married and having kids does not automatically make someone wise and mature. And it also does not mean you automatically have more "worthy" problems. I am married with a toddler, but that doesn't mean any problems my unmarried friends have (especially of the sensitive sort) are lesser than any problems I have. Sorry your friend took the selfish route :(

*hugs*
JadeAngel, 07 March 2012 - 08:04 PM
ty Jade, that's what my mom and my non pandy friends said too. I don't feel so bad now.
blondie2002, 09 March 2012 - 03:14 PM
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