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new stepfamily, I'm still trying to adjust.

Posted by blondie2002 , in Family 17 May 2010 · 105 views

My dad just just got married this past Saturday, :yay: and now I have a new step mom and 4(?) new stepsiblings. I mean logically it shouldn't be "that" big of a deal b/c all of P's kids are around the same ages as R and I, but I still feel :unsure: about the whole thing.



Hi sweetie,

I just got a sister-in-law and am feeling quite the same way. It really is hard to explain why it feels so odd and different and difficult when really nothing has changed except that two people got married. It's not like any new people have been introduced into the mix, just that now it's official. She is my sister-in-law and they are your step-family.

Take gentle care while you adjust
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blondie2002
May 18 2010 11:51 AM

Hi sweetie,

I just got a sister-in-law and am feeling quite the same way. It really is hard to explain why it feels so odd and different and difficult when really nothing has changed except that two people got married. It's not like any new people have been introduced into the mix, just that now it's official. She is my sister-in-law and they are your step-family.

Take gentle care while you adjust

Thanks Lauren. I'm glad someone understands. Did I mention when we chatted that up until the wedding, I had never met them but just seen pics? I hope to get a chance to get to know M,S and my other 2 step siblings better, so I can feel more at ease.
Hi blondie,

Years ago my mother remarried a man with two children from different marriages. They were both a lot younger than me, but it turned into a good thing. Even though The SF is out of the picture for some time his son is still in contact, and I get lots of updates and photos of his adopted son. And he and the wife, son, visit when they can...they live in Minnesota, it's hard for them to get off from work. :(

So things might feel strange at first, but hopefully you'll have a good outcome, too.

Much Love! :hug: :hug: :hug:
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blondie2002
May 24 2010 11:59 PM
Thanks Chels, I'm hopeing so too. ty for the :hug: s I tried to get my younger cousin J's advice, b/c she has step siblings, and while she was wasn't able to give me much advice b/c she was alot younger and had more time to adjust, what advice she "did" give me was helpful.
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blondie2002
Aug 10 2013 11:29 PM
Here's an update in case anyone's curious, I've adjusted somewhat in the 3 yrs since my dad got remarried and I'm friendly with my stepsister M. I'm still :unsure: about my stepbrothers and other stepsister.

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