If I tell you that giving in to my urges would give me some relief, if I tell you that that's the only way that will work for me, does that mean I am not working on my healing?
If I say I am sorry for giving in, does that in any way, in your mind, change what I did?
If I cut myself, if I dismiss all the other help available, and choose what I know will give me relief, does that somehow make me guilty?
Does it make me less strong?
Does it make me less brave?