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I keep going over this, but it is bothering me. Next week is going to suck, being with this child and knowing what is about to happen. If it is not too difficult, I want to help, but I don't want to have to deal with her family. I do not want my family to be affected negatively because of this child, but scared to think about what is going to happen to her. She is already sad about being separated from her mother, I can't imagine how scary it is going to be for her when Thursday rolls around.
I could see myself making this rash decision and contacting DHS, especially now that my husband seems okay with it. I don't want to do something that I may regret though, or something he may resent me for. I could easily tell myself that it is not my place to step up and help this child, and it is not, but whose place is it? If I don't, who is going to? No one at work, that is for sure. Then when I pause and stop thinking about the child and think of my family instead, it becomes apparent how many difficulties it could cause. Still, I feel like I should do something. She shouldn't be with the family she is with now, that is for sure.
I may not even be able to help, DHS probably has it all planned out, but their plan has not worked so far. Taking a child out of an abusive environment only to place them in another one is useless. They might as well of had let her stay with her mother. I don't know what to do, or if I should even try to do something. I have mentioned it at work, and have been warned not to do it, that I should not get involved. I don't know maybe I am crazy for even thinking of it, but what if I could make this one child's life better?
I could see myself making this rash decision and contacting DHS, especially now that my husband seems okay with it. I don't want to do something that I may regret though, or something he may resent me for. I could easily tell myself that it is not my place to step up and help this child, and it is not, but whose place is it? If I don't, who is going to? No one at work, that is for sure. Then when I pause and stop thinking about the child and think of my family instead, it becomes apparent how many difficulties it could cause. Still, I feel like I should do something. She shouldn't be with the family she is with now, that is for sure.
I may not even be able to help, DHS probably has it all planned out, but their plan has not worked so far. Taking a child out of an abusive environment only to place them in another one is useless. They might as well of had let her stay with her mother. I don't know what to do, or if I should even try to do something. I have mentioned it at work, and have been warned not to do it, that I should not get involved. I don't know maybe I am crazy for even thinking of it, but what if I could make this one child's life better?
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Just one comment. A good family would never think that a child has negatively affected them. Remember, children are innocent, even if they go through bad situations. I think the healthy ones keep trying. I admire you being there for her!
Iammealways,
02 October 2010 - 04:03 PM
If you care about the child, then she is most important. The law even sees this. I'm not sure if taking her out of the home is good or not. Child have a hard time doing anything when there's issues at home and they do need others for guidance, maybe she is confused between what is appropriate behavior and not. Maybe the adults have their issues that the child is sensitive to. Then the child may blame herself out of confusion. It is unfortunate to hear that any family blames a child for things. That may cause damage as an adult, it is only when she chooses not take on the family situation on herself, then she will be fine and able to do things. She may feel bad for a while, but it is when she frees herself in her mind of things despite what others may try to do to bring her down, and if she can grow up to have a relatively loving heart-than she is very strong. Keep encouraging her. Children who have been in these situations look badly on themselves, they need reassurance that they couldn't help their situation. She also probably loves her family still, but is confused on how to feel. It might take her some time. But I am glad you are there!
Iammealways,
02 October 2010 - 04:17 PM
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