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Broken hearts can't hold secrets


Wise words from Lindsay Lou and the Flatbellys

Posted by Charleigh , 18 January 2015 · 27 views

"I'm not looking for an answer I'm not trying for a tired old bag of tricks I need a fix a frame shift"
I've grown tired and weary of the same old answers, cliches, and general ideas that work for some. With most of them I've already used them, tried them, a been there done that, kind of thing. What I really need and am ready for is that "frame shi...


Learning from the Prickers...part 2

Posted by Charleigh , 15 October 2013 · 84 views

What a great band with great lyrics that really have been making me think.

"I know I know that good friends come and go..." -The Prickers, I Know I Know

Oh do I ever know how good friends come and go. It's sad to think that very few friendships last a lifetime. I'm currently struggling with the possibility of letting someone go for it s...


Learning from The Prickers...

Posted by Charleigh , 13 October 2013 · 98 views

"Why can't we. Find the brighter days...far away from the darkest places." -the prickers, kurtain kall

I think in all things that I do I'm trying to find the brighter days, away from these dark places. Isn't that the goal, after all? Isn't that what I'm trying to achieve through therapy and reaching out here. To find the brig...


I can fly into the future if I leave my past behind

Posted by Charleigh , 17 June 2011 · 83 views

I'm often making mistakes, forgetting to pay bills, doing things I really shouldn't. I can think back through my life and pick out all of the mistakes and I beat myself up as if the original punishment for my actions wasn't enough. I find myself stuck in those past mistakes unable to step in the future with growth and change. I'm too focus...


Six Feet Under Quote

Posted by Charleigh , 21 June 2010 · 102 views

Nathanial Fisher: You hold on to your pain like it means something, like it's worth something. Well let me tell you, it aint worth shit. Infinite possibilities and all [you] can do is whine.

David: Well, what am I supposed to do?

Nathanial: What do you think? You can do anything you lucky bastard, you're alive. What's a little pain compared...


Relaxation Information

Posted by Charleigh , 05 May 2010 · 68 views

What is personal progressive relaxation?
Learning to relax:
You may have grown to accept a certain high level of stress and anxiety as "normal." You may be unfamiliar with what it feels like to be relaxed, calm and unstressed. With progressive relaxation you learn what it feels like to be relaxed, you learn to increase relaxation to a new level. B...


A small bit of my anger

Posted by Charleigh , 02 May 2010 · 39 views

"Hidden anger can kill me. I must recognize it and address it"

"Buried that collection of hurts turned into anger and seeped out sideways. Sometimes the seeping turns into a flood."

In the past months I have suffered a lot of hurt, in particularly having a close friend end our friendship and placing the blame on me. Afraid to feel the hu...


Inspiring Quotes

Posted by Charleigh , 26 March 2010 · 44 views

When you are angry, count to four; when you are really angry, swear. -Mark Twain

Always write angry letters to your enemies. Never mail them. -James Fallows

The world needs anger. The world often continues to allow evil because it isn't angry enough. -Ambrose Bierce

A woman is like a tea bag- you never know how strong she is until you put her in ho...



Posted by Charleigh , 07 March 2010 · 51 views

"Guilt always hurries towards its complement, punishment: only there does its satisfaction lie." Lawrence Durrell

Guilt seems to be a prominent feature in my life as of late and of course following guilt is punishment. My guilt primarily lies in my beliefs that I could have done something to stop the abuse and that I should have been a better per...


What is important?

Posted by Charleigh , 07 March 2010 · 51 views

I'm in the midst of trying to decide what is important, or maybe which is more important really. Can I make it enough to simply put my feelings out there even if he doesn't see my words or do I really need him to know how much he hurt me? At the moment I'm saying he needs to know but why. Why do I so badly need him to know? Is it more that I h...


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