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Confusion to why

Posted by Orchid , 31 December 2014 · 38 views

I've been able to process the reason's why I was abused.  My mother was abused and had mental health issues.  My brothers were abused.  This combination made the environment abuse reactive, and I was the youngest.
What hurts now is not understanding adults with no mental health issues, or history of abuse, that are manipulative or no...



Posted by Orchid , 04 December 2014 · 39 views

Is there anyone on here from Pakistan?  I would like to know how abuse is addressed?  Are there available resources such as counseling?  Is there a cultural expectation that abuse doesn't occur, shouldn't be talked about, or that abuse shouldn't leave scars?   I have a friend that is from Pakistan, but the advice I'm receiving ten...


Bill Cosby

Posted by Orchid , 26 November 2014 · 86 views

Having a hard time with the Facebook comments about the Bill Cosby incidents.  I need to let it go......and not allow it to interrupt my life, but it's difficult.


Sexual abuse survivors NOT represented.

Posted by Orchid , 30 July 2014 · 80 views

The following website is used in places such as hospitals to assist staff/clinicians in understanding the complexities of different cultures or populations.  The website includes information on "Intimate Partner Violence, and Refugees/Torture Survivors", but does NOT include information on adult survivors of sexual abuse.  Please use the followi...


Understanding the brain and trauma

Posted by Orchid , 15 July 2014 · 93 views



Neurobiology of Trauma

Posted by Orchid , 01 April 2014 · 101 views



One more blog for the day. The apology

Posted by Orchid , 19 March 2014 · 106 views

How many of us burn from hatred because an apology was never given.
This doesn't have to be just the pedophile's apology, but maybe the apology from the spouse, the neighbor, the coworker, the boyfriend, or girlfriend.
Why is an apology so difficult.  Why is it so important?  For me it shows that the other person finally recognizes...


Do we hurt others?

Posted by Orchid , 19 March 2014 · 102 views

One of the issues that abuse left me struggling with is how an abuser never stopped to consider how their actions would hurt the victim.  People will lie, cheat, steal, rape, or kill to fulfill their own needs. 
On a daily basis I watch people do very harmful things in small subtle ways in their relationships.  I watch men lie t...



Posted by Orchid , 13 March 2014 · 78 views

Dreams hitting hard recently.  A shift is occuring, a new layer to be uncovered.  These periods are tough, but take me closer to the core of my pain.  I ride the wave of pain, embracing it, knowing I will come out stronger and wiser.  Fatigue and privacy are my biggest challenges.  Courage and perseverance I have.  I am a war...



Posted by Orchid , 27 February 2014 · 152 views

One of my favorite resources for PTSD. I have several of her guided imagery CD's that do help.

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