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Hello, new to the site. I am a multiple rape survivor. One being someone I never knew, and the other being a partner. I have just recently started to talk about it and come forward. Anyone have any good books or sites they would like to suggest?

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Hello Abbeyjoy,

Welcome :)

Good for you for taking steps in our recovery and coming forward! I thought that you might like to check out the book forum there are discussions for healing books. I hope that you will find the books that you are looking for

Lucy :)

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Hello all,

I am new to this site but have been following it for a few weeks. I am a sexual assault survivor and have been working intensively within the last year to heal. After lots of work I can see manifestations of growth within many facets of my life. Thank you for the opportunity to find support and to share within a safe and supportive forum. I am very much looking forward to taking the next steps in my journey!

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I am a mom to three little boys.

Abused from toddler to teen by my grandfather.

New here because I can't carry this alone any longer...and I want to heal.

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Hi Desertfox,

Welcome! You may want to visit our "Introduce Yourself" forum found here. :)

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Peace to you,

Susan

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hello everyone, Im new here.

From Scotland. Really need some healing space just now.

So hi all and look forward to getting to know you xx

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As a mother of a young child who disclosed in September I had no where to go. So many people (all parents themselves) are so quick to dismiss him but I cannot.

I hope if one of their children said somthing they will listen and have the balls to do somthing. I have lost friends and family over my choice to believe him... he's 4 years old I should believe him first

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Hi new to the site here and new to admitting to the abuse after 25 years I finally to a stand. Reaching out is hard for me it took weeks for me to get this far....

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Hi ccr,

Well done for reaching out! None of us should remain silent or try to handle abuse alone. Take your time and share when you're ready. We'll be here listening and supporting you!

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Peace to you,

Susan

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Hai... Is this thread still on?

Well just wanna say so happy to find this community.. where i can find other people who can understand...

the first time i was assaulted was when i 5yr old by my cousin.. after that when i was about my 25of age by a partner for a long time.. even until now i still have doubts if i named it a harrassment n rape or not. But he ripped the very existance of me.. im loosibg myself, made me cry every night n hate myself...

Now in the age of 32 i dont feel like having a support system, i've told 1friend about it, but she dont believe.. that hurt me so much.. maybe because i lived in a country that dont have much knowledge about 'even a partner can rape'.. or maybe people just dont want to hear... well i stop having hope to share my 'story' until i found pandy.. even writing this make me feel a little bit better.. thank you

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Today, it is 26 months since I watched my bpd/npd mom die of her 6th narcotics international overdose. My family of origin has effectively blown itself as up into pieces. My elderly dad & rwo brothers are violent. I live in my own home away from them. I used to be resilient & left their upscale home the say I graduated hs. I became very successful & got my own identity. I went became the golden child. Then, I got a rare fatal illness  (well!, I'm still here!) & fit stuck in "my always real home" for medical care & became an abused hostage.no one wanted to get involved. I was too weak to leave. I was malnourished, dehydrated , had injuries, & afraid for my life if I left my room. I'll try to say more later. i believe I have Stockholm syndrome/trauma bonds. I miss my dad and fear one of us will die & not know. I miss the image of the mom I thought grew up with me. It's irrational. I just want real parents who love me. That's as far as I can go now. I hope I finally found people who understand what it's like to be an adult child still abused or re-abused. I can't get over the shock of what happened & the loss I never imagined. The ppl I thought they became were a lie and yet I put them first all the time to end up alone, traumatized, & grieving  when  I need them most. I have to find my resilience again ..I did survive & I did leave and an safe now: I hurt. I was doing better but this weekend is just going badly. Thx  & sorry for typos 

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i was a victim of ritual abuse

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I'm a wounded healer. I have my masters in mental health counseling and work as a therapist. Daily, I doubt if I am healthy enough to do this work but it is work that I love. As a therapist, I am triggered often. I understand very well the impact of what I've been through but I haven't healed from it. I've kept it sectioned off in the basement of consciousness and memories burst through daily, unexpected, freight trained by a flashback. I do not have a community and I isolate. People often say that forgiveness is part of the process but I cannot and will not forgive what was done to me. I try and blame the action and not the man. But I keep seeing him in the darkest corners and moments of my day. I have been silenced for so long and have so longed for a community. I am new to all of this and grateful that it exists.

 

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