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Anybody else have weird triggers?

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spiders....that's probably my weirdest..and any kind of light touches on my skin.. :blink:

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Sirens

Body oder

Certain cologne's

Holding my hands down

Halloween

Thanksgiving

12 year old girls (Forces me to remember how little I actually was)

Loud noises

Cramps

Ob-Gyn appt.

**But mostly, it's that "look" that some men give me. There is a certain way that men look at you through the top of their eyes that sends me into instant flashbacks.

Meggan

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Older white men (which is odd, since I was r*ped by an 18 year old)

Skinny, pale, oft-geeky guys with glasses and/or dark hair

Protruding adam's apples

People with similar voices

People who get IN MY SPACE (and can then expect to be poked with my knitting needles)

being home alone

brown dogs

masturbation

creepy pagans (as opposed to non-creepy pagans, which are most of my friends)

this one evangelist preacher who comes on campus every year and always manages to say something stupid and triggering

chest compression

hand restraint

Edited by Becida

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a few more triggers....

having someone whisper in my ear...especially during sex, but doesn't always have to be just then...

little kids crying...that's why it's so stressful with my 2 year old lately

the smell of beer on someone's breath..or any kind of alcohol really..

feeling someone touch me...down there....during that time of the month..

being told i'm pretty...sweet...beautiful...being called princess..cutie...baby...

being in a dark room watching tv

thunderstorms

barbie dolls...

honey bees...or any kind of bee..but mostly honey bees

:blush:

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Wind in trees

Mansun - "Wide open spaces" (I'm sure sure why this is, can't remember)

Girls wearing my old school uniform

Little girls' underwear (hard with a young daughter!)

Some films, TV.

Having a hand over my mouth

Being lifted up from behind (fooling around.. Really NOT funny.)

A man breathing/noises in my ear during sex

:blush:

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Taking pills of any kind

being around little kids

being around my cousin/brother

and my constant nightmares

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-Snow

-Baths

-Someone touching my face, particularly my ears

-Being grabbed or touched

-Thunderstorms

-Being in a car that is really hot

-Corndogs, wieners or sausages

-Grabbing my arms

-Old spice cologne

-The movie 101 Dalmatians (Cartoon)

-Gymnastics... which is hard because I use to love to compete

-People not believing me or telling me that they didn't think that what I just told them could happen or did happen

-Police officers

-Darkness

-Basements

-The feel of condoms

-Socks

-Magic Markers

-Hands

-Cameras

-The smell of cigarette smoke

-Unrolled tobacco

-The smell of tobacco

-French kissing

-Facial hair

-Men between the ages of 40-50

-Hearing his name

-Anything to do with sex

-People following me

-Crowed places

-Laying on my back

-Being tickled

Edited by DramaQueen

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I honestly thought that I was the only one who had problems watching rape scenes.

Some of my triggers include:

The song "Bad Moon Rising" by CCR

The song "The Freshman" by The Verv Pipe

Clockwork Orange

Stephen King Novels

Beer

Sandpaper Hands

I know they all seem a little strange together, but they fit together in my head.

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drunk men

men who smell of alcohol

r*pe scenes or talking about it on tv

people in general talking about r*pe

being touched, especially my face

angry men

bedrooms

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My weirdest trigger is mushrooms...... the smell of mushrooms gags me because semen smells like mushrooms, that musty nasty smell. Another one is seeing children sit on Santa's lap. Oh, and the words 'stroke' and 'cock'.

Turtle and Ashley-Michelle, I can relate. The word 'panties' bothers me so much, that I nearly didn't join this forum because the name "Pandy's" triggered me. And I am also triggered by the photo of the girl leaning on the tree that's on every page in this site. I have to move the page on my screen so I don't have to look at that photo.

Most of my triggers seem to be pretty common, judging from this thread. The smell of alcohol on someone's breath, and the smell of Old Spice cologne, a hand over my mouth, anyone touching me if I don't see it coming.

Several posters have said beards trigger them. But for me, a man who shaves bothers me, because there will be that "grizzle" in a few hours....... I insist my husband has a full beard year round because full beards are soft and not scratchy.

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I have some very wierd triggers ;I can't handle anyone behind me,I can't stand the sight of tongues or geting licked. Can't handle French kissing.I have a hard time describing this one...musty male smell.Being touched in the dark. Pressure on my face or neck.Talking about it.The smell of someone smoking in the dark.To many people touching me.Drunk men breathing in my face.Anyone touching my bum. The innocence of my daughter.knives being pointed towards me.Men giving Little girls "horsie" rides on their lap. Being burnt.

Edited by twylightmyst

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* wearing a t-shirt with nothing on my bottom half.

-i thought that one was just me......thanks for sharing Lula may x

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its weird,i didn't necessarily think of stuff as triggering,til i read this post,i think its helped:

*T*

-the smell of whisky

-people walking up behind me/jumping out at me

-small spaces

-going out when i feel unsafe or upset

-Being in Taxi s(especially on my own)

-being somewhere i haven't been before

-September

-Christmas

-seeing kids be mistreated in any way(on tv,in the street,in shops etc)

-Dreams about the house i grew up in

-beinhg told what to do in intimate situations

-feeling unsafe(alone in the house,walking at night,people i don't know coming over)this one is usuallyworse when i already feel down

-Going to new places

-plans changing at short notice(feels unsafe)

-uncertainty

-people yelling at me/confrontations/arguements

-that song that goes"what a difference a day makes 24 little hours"......i have no idea why

-feeling pressured to do things(in any form, it just makes me get that closed in feeling)

wow....there s more than i thought

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I got more now...

1. Mens Gillette Deodorant

2. Having my hair stroked

3. Anyone grabbing me forcefully (even if its just a mate who grabs my hand to take me somewhere or something)

4. People moving around at night

5. Casinos (Im not sure this is a bad thing :P )

6. Pubs and accomodation rooms at pubs

7. Having anything touching my wrists

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I think this post is an awesome idea. (This is my very first time on the site...so "hi" to everyone.) I dont think I have many odd triggers, but I do have several

* The smell of a certain mans cologne (dont know the name of it)

* Being held down

* Sex in general used to give me flashbacks (I have a wonderfully understanding fiance!)

* Hearing the sound of a toy saxaphone from the dollar store (and a few other kids toys)

* Men about 5'7 or 5'8, kinda built, and have facial hair. *shiver*

* Really cheap, tacky looking leopard print

* Having my nose closed off

* Any kind of rough sex scene (doesnt have to be rape, just rough)

* Any kind of bondage (real life or movies)

* Some porn

* White work vans

* A certain city... We'll call it Hellville...

I didnt realize how many I had!! Wow. I think this site is going to be really good for me!

~Angie :kiss:

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I think its good to discuss triggers. Its so crazy how suddenly a trigger can occur, and how odd and random they can be. Its good to know that Im not the only one who experiences weird triggers.

Any mentioning of the word r*pe...esp in a joking manner

The material that suits are made out of...(that scratchy rough fabric)

The song My Humps by Black Eyed Peas (it was playing in the background)

some mans cologne (im not sure what the name of it is...but i can tell you when some one is wearing it)

being grabbed from behind the waist

My feet or legs being touched

Wearing a thong

Any sexual attention

Dances or clubs...loud music and lots of people in confined areas

Being drunk

Chiffon material (like the dress i was wearing)

Being touched on the hips bones or around my waist area

watching any r*pe scenes in movies

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I have some strange triggers and I am still trying to figure out all of them. I do have a question regarding them also. I know triggers cause flashbacks or snapshots of the ab*se. But what about how they "feel" I seem to have more emotional type triggers where I numb out or dissociate. Can anyone discribe what their triggers do or how you feel to better understand? Thanks!

Here are some of mine:

Large men especially

men in general

Women's breasts

crowded rooms or elevators

pornography

sexual talk

any mention of the prom

the beach at night

people too close

loud voices

angry people

disrespect

not being heard

digital penetration

bananas

drinking from a bottle

oral sex

movements like male masturbation

smells of body odor

canasta or cards

cribbage

the name Steve

r*pe scenes on t.v./movies

any talk of inc*st

cucumbers

well I'm a little weirded out...so I think I'm done for now.

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I have some strange triggers and I am still trying to figure out all of them. I do have a question regarding them also. I know triggers cause flashbacks or snapshots of the ab*se. But what about how they "feel" I seem to have more emotional type triggers where I numb out or dissociate. Can anyone discribe what their triggers do or how you feel to better understand? Thanks!

Here are some of mine:

Large men especially

men in general

Women's breasts

crowded rooms or elevators

pornography

sexual talk

any mention of the prom

the beach at night

people too close

loud voices

angry people

disrespect

not being heard

digital penetration

bananas

drinking from a bottle

oral sex

movements like male masturbation

smells of body odor

canasta or cards

cribbage

the name Steve

r*pe scenes on t.v./movies

any talk of inc*st

cucumbers

well I'm a little weirded out...so I think I'm done for now.

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I seem to have more emotional type triggers where I numb out or dissociate. Can anyone discribe what their triggers do or how you feel to better understand?

I am more likely to respond to my triggers emotionally than to see images as well, although once in a while I'll be triggered and get an image (or a sound or a smell). Aside from dissociating and "going passive" (where I obey commands but can't speak), sometimes when I'm triggered I'm just completely terrified all of a sudden, or very agitated without even being able to put a name to what I'm feeling. Once when that happened I ended up lashing out at a guy who'd done nothing wrong - the situation was VERY parallel to an abusive one in a number of ways and the guy I attacked was, I'm afraid, the "stand in" for the guy who set me up the other time. :( But even though I could consciously remember that abuse, I didn't make the connection between my response the other time for years and years. I didn't even consciously label what I was feeling at the time as "fear". :rolleyes: Couldn't understand why I'd lost it that way, but once the light dawned it was painfully obvious why I was triggered, even though it wasn't by anything that normally gets me but rather a combination of little stuff that made the situations similar.

Sheryl

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I used to have such an enormous list of triggers. (Many same as listed here by others.) My responses would vary. Sometimes I would go into a full-blown flashback and either start lashing out, hitting and elbowing my poor husband in bed, or I'd curl up into the fetal position and rock myself, or I'd blurt out something I said as a child, or I'd have this overwhelming compulsion to hide in the dark (in the closet, under a desk, etc.). Other times I'd just dissociate and "check out."

Okay, I'm feeling like a real nutcase here. Anyway, I was so grateful to find a trauma processing expert and we've eliminated many triggers--Yay! Sometimes, I was able to work on triggers all by themselves, without even having to access a terrifying memory. That was phenomenal!!!

One I'm still working on is the feel of hair on my face

(got over the visual phobia of seeing hair)

A weird one I'm baffled over is the feel of water running down my arms

(like when I wash my face and the water trickles down)

Anyone else have something like that?

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Hi,

Currently my triggers are:

- Anthing to do with the movie "The Wizard of Oz." I do mean ANYTHING, even the books, songs. Once I had to leave a bookstore and have a friend calm me down because they had the compleate colection on display. When I went back in she had to stay with me.

- People grabbing me by the elbow, it's worse when I can't see them (like when they come up behind me) but even if I can see them it's bad.

- Being somewhere that I can't get out of easily (i.e.- church, airports, classes, anywhere).

- Males giving me complements about my looks. Sometimes giving me complements at all.

- Having my hair down, especialy when another person takes it down. Once my teacher almost had security come get me because one of the other students took down my hair as a joke and she couldn't even get me to breath.

- Any mention of b.j. s (NOT the name, thank goodness) it's what happened first.

I think that is all for now. This was a good idea. Naomi

Edited by booklady

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Some triggers I've had:

Being in bed at night (especially on my right side)

Anyone who's behind me (I have to know who's there)

Anyone getting too close to me

Being in the shower (have to wash vigourously everytime)

Edited by pallyc

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being alone with guys i dont trust

having sex with people i dont trust

having sex in the back of a car

hearing my rapists name

hearing the word rape

being with a big group of guys

rape scenes on TV adverts/programmmes and films

in london recently alot of girls have been raped in illegal minicabs so they have had a line of adverts and posters that say if u want to find out what getting in an illegal minicab could cost u ask a rape victim and it has the black shadow of a woman with messy hair.

I found these adverts both upsetting and triggering

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- R*pe in tv, movies, books, etc.

- talk of rape, insinuated or otherwise

- Men over the age of about 16 or so.

- Children, sometimes

- Seeing a man dominate over a woman

- Certain forms of intimate touch

- When a man stands too close to me, talks in my face, or touches me at all if I haven't given him permission.

- Cops. Even traffic stops make me frantic as I've been harassed by the cops several times.

- Seeing men cat call or look a woman or girl up and down or make rude comments.

- Groups of men hanging out together

- Anti-abortion stuff

- Seeing men and little girls together

- Smells. I have no idea what they are, it just happens.

- My hands being held down

- The back of my head being held, like you see sometimes when couples are kissing.

- Movies about or depicting hookers

- Giving a man oral sex

- Not being asked first before sex.

- Feeling immobilized or pinned down.

- Rough sex

- Crude gestures, like a man simulating masturbation or something

- The abstinence preachers who make sex and those who engage in it sound dirty. Anyone who suggests non-virgins are "impure" or have lost their value. Anyone who disputes the validity of rape.

- Hearing about women being good for only sex. Any anti-woman statements in fact.

- Wearing short skirts.

- Any sexual attention at all, except from my husband but even then only when I say it's alright.

I can't think of what else. I didn't realize I had so many. A shorter list would be what doesn't trigger me!

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Plenty of 'normal' ones at the moment that I won't go into because I'd imagine that they're pretty communal, but the 'weird' ones are listed below...

--having my wrists/elbows held (at any time)

--seeing any kind of blue car that is shaped like an estate (where it started)

--being shouted at

--seeing leather belts

--hearing J's or Lu's name

--hugging (sometimes... and it seems to be unpredictable this one....) :tear:

Kate x

**edited to add name trigger**

Edited by allovertheplace

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