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Anybody else have weird triggers?

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Most of the ones I have are already listed, but the strangest one I have is

* somebody fluffing my pillow *

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there are so many but I've never sat down before and written them out...

These are "triggers" in the sense that they usually make me dissociate...

*being restrained or held down in any way

*being touched without warning

*loud fingersnaps

*doctors other than my normal GP

*any kind of gyn exam/procedure

*breast exams

*lying on my back without being covered (I can't sleep without at least a sheet over me)

These are more just strong/unbearable reminders

*dirty snow/slush

*black ice

*injections

*PJ's with lots of frills/lace

*sleeping on the couch

*sundresses (like little girls wear)

*hearing locks click

*streetlights

*the word "fiance" (yeah...i know :huh: )

I'm sure there are more, but I'm blanking right now...

Edited by onlyhope

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Anything that has to do with ScoobyDoo. That movie was playing during the rape.

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OK HERE WE GO

*PUBLIC PLACES SOCIAL GATHERINGS

*BIGF CITES TO MANY POEPLE YOU CAN NOT KEEP TABS ON EVERYONE

*HAVING MY EYES CLOSED WITH OTHER PEOPLE IN THE ROOM

*CERTIAN PERFUMES

*CERTIAN MUSIC

*DOCUMENTRIES ABOUT MULTIPLE PERSONALITY DISORDERS OR SEX SCENES

*BOOKS ABOUT THESE TOPICS

*INCLOSED PACES SUCH AS GETTING STUCK IN A ROOM

*PEOPLE TUCHING ME

*MY FRIEND HAS AND OPSETION WITH LAPDANCING AND SHE LIKES TO DO THINGS ON THE BACK OF MY CHAIR

*CHILDREN SCREAMING

*BEING SHOUTED AT OR PEOPLE SHOTING AT EACH OTHER

*HAVING TO SIT CLOSE TO ANY OTRHER HUMAN BEING

*PEOPLE TUCHING ME FROM BEHIND

*HAVING TO GET CHANGED IN A PUBLIC CHANGING ROOM

*WALKING DOWN THE CORRIDOR OF THE BOARDNG SCHOOL

*TRAMPS AND POEPLE WHO LOOK SCALLY

*BEING TOUCHED WHEN A SLEEP

*DOCTORS EXAMINATIONS

Edited by kit-kat

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Fantastic thread, here goes:

hippies

long-haired guys

guys with red hair (especially long red-haired hippy guys)

Kikoman soy sauce

Boston - the city, the people, anything about it

my former college, sadly

july and june

loud noises, especially in the morning

grateful dead, led zeppelin, some pink floyd music

whiskey, especially Jack Daniels and Jim Beam

alcohol

the smell of alcohol on someone's breath

new age stuff

crowded places with lots of noise and stimulation, esp. shopping centres

leftover pasta with no sauce

being hungry

being tired

leering men of an older generation who still think its ok to ogle females

sex (lately)

overly judgmental (holier-than-thou) environmentalists, human rights activists, etc.

hot weather

breathing pollution or other fumes I don't want in my body

doing deep breathing exercises

my head being against the wall/headboard during sex

being touched on my breasts (this is a HUGE, the worst trigger of all)

being touched on my inner thighs

being turned on

orgasm (sometimes)

large candles with multiple wicks

mornings

bedtime

tongue kissing in the morning

well that's "all" I can think of for now...

oh yeah, I forgot to add KNIVES! I have this neurotic thing where I can't bear to have a knife or other sharp object pointing in my direction. Like if there's a knife on the kitchen table or counter, or scissors on a desk, I always have to get up and turn it in a different direction. That's probably the most neurotic bizarre thing about me (apart from hand-washing).

Edited by Kimby

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I know I said it in this thread before, but Brad Pitt!!

I am so sick of him lately, and I can't stand it. I don't care about his personal life, I don't like his movies, and no, I will NOT GO SEE MR AND MRS SMITH WITH YOU!

I will not watch any movie with him in it, and that is hard to explain when every single one of your friends wants you to come see some stupid movie with them.

Nothing against him personally, he's possibly a lovely person.

Niffer

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this is just a few of them:

being called hon or sweetie

really strong cologne

white t-shirts with leather jackets

looney tunes boxer shorts

disney's the prince of egypt

white candles

orange couches

silver vans

large double-doubles from tim horton's (made it very difficult to work there last summer)

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Triggers....

Smells......Like cigerette smoke...and the smell of beer

And the taste of them in your mouth......(so i rarely drink beer....and I rarely smoke)

And sometimes a passionate kiss, where his lips are over my face...etc...I feel like I'm drowning and I can't breathe.....(my poor b/f :down: ) ......like being kissed on while laying down....and I feel his weight on my body....some times that's comforting...others....pertrifying.

And also .....I think the colour beige....and yellow.....although I've recently started wearing the colour yellow agian.

Sudden tempreture changes (i.e..it gets colder)

Permanent Markers.....esp in blue

Fat fingers....with short nails..belonging to rather large men

I think men with really short hair

Goose pimples...(how weird is that!)

Someone holding my head when we kiss (well sometimes....does it count if its "sometimes"?)

Oh...and beards....(my b/f doesn't have one..thankfully :D )

Weird smells....like when some licks their lips a lot....and their lips/mouth smells like saliva....OMG....Biggest trigger for me...EVER

And I guess thats all I can remember now...

Edited by annodomini

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there are so many but I've never sat down before and written them out...

These are "triggers" in the sense that they usually make me dissociate...

*being restrained or held down in any way

*being touched without warning

*loud fingersnaps

*doctors other than my normal GP

*any kind of gyn exam/procedure

*breast exams

*lying on my back without being covered (I can't sleep without at least a sheet over me)

These are more just strong/unbearable reminders

*dirty snow/slush

*black ice

*injections

*PJ's with lots of frills/lace

*sleeping on the couch

*sundresses (like little girls wear)

*hearing locks click

*streetlights

*the word "fiance" (yeah...i know :huh: )

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Adding a few more...

*Having someone come up behind me and grab my shoulder

*spiderwebs (the ones that form overnight in the woods)

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-beds...(the abuse happened on a bed, now i can't sleep if i'm on one and i get terrible flashbacks)

-a certain scent of cologne... don't know the name of it

-people saying things such as "Shelby come over here", "Don't cry" etc.

-anyone who looks like him

-and of course... actually doing anything somewhat sexual with someone... even just kissing or being alone with a guy

~Shelby

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Heya all - even though i am new here - hope you dont mind me posting this...

I have the normal range of triggers - certain men , smells, men with the same name as this one particular guy - even to the point where i had a friend since then that used his initials for his name eg bp and when i asked what the intials for - i shuddered at his answer and said that we would keep calling him bp.

Others for me are:

eyes that change - become hard like ice

blue eyes

certain stances of men

anyone coming up from behind to me (even my kids... :( )

locked doors anywhere in the house

blood - hate the sight of it hate hate hate hate hate hate the sight of it

fists - closed or open

being called "pet"

people touching my hair

certain "looks"

being led anywhere by the hand

someone breathing near my ears

hands on my neck

the bedroom in my parents house

certain other house

enclosed spaces

too many people in one place

oooo - sure there are plenty more

maybe some other time.....

Helz

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I have many. I think they've all come from my past abusive relationship.

things other people do

- anyone tickling me (or anyone else in the same room)

- being hugged tigh, especially when I'm leaving

- anyone saying "you're mine"

- someone calling me angel, virgin or princess... or whore

- someone suddenly touching me when I'm not looking

- someone holding my wrists

- someone telling me I have soft skin

- talking about "sexy" clothes

- talking about the length of my hair

- people shouting on me

things I do

- being naked or on my underwear when another person's present (even if that person is my mom or my grandma)

- keeping my hands up on my head, or on the pillow when I'm in bed

- lying on the bed without a shirt on

and the most irrational things

- drunk men, especially middle aged

- the words virgin, innocence, purity, blood, sexy, whore or breasts

- music of Enrique Iglesias, especially the song Love To See You Cry (I loved the song Hero but now that too reminds me of my abuser)

- Everytime music video by Britney Spears

- All About the Money by Meja

- Shut Up by Black Eyed Peas

- a person playing a dog

- porn pictures or movies

- elevators

- fishsticks

- poker

- Japanese anime

- Matrix Revolutions (although the original Matrix is one of my favourite movies)

- computer game Black and White

Edited by Elfstar

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Most of my triggers are pretty average - touch, sex, angry men, being held down a certain way, blue eyes (although I'm getting over that one - actually liked Elijah Wood's Frodo despite the eyes :o :D ), etc. - but I have a couple that haven't been mentioned, one of which is pretty odd.

- purity tests; last date rape he tried to get me to take one

- Ado Annie's song "I'm Just a Girl Who Can't Say No" from the musical Oklahoma. Love the musical except for that song. No idea why it triggers me, but it does...

Sheryl

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Triggers....

Smells......Like cigerette smoke...and the smell of beer

And the taste of them in your mouth......(so i rarely drink beer....and I rarely smoke)

And sometimes a passionate kiss, where his lips are over my face...etc...I feel like I'm drowning and I can't breathe.....(my poor b/f  :down:  ) ......like being kissed on while laying down....and I feel his weight on my body....some times that's comforting...others....pertrifying. 

And also .....I think the colour beige....and yellow.....although I've recently started wearing the colour yellow agian. 

Sudden tempreture changes (i.e..it gets colder)

Permanent Markers.....esp in blue

Fat fingers....with short nails..belonging to rather large men

I think men with really short hair

Goose pimples...(how weird is that!)

Someone holding my head when we kiss (well sometimes....does it count  if its "sometimes"?)

Oh...and beards....(my b/f doesn't have one..thankfully  :D  )

Weird smells....like when some licks their lips a lot....and their lips/mouth smells like saliva....OMG....Biggest trigger for me...EVER

And I guess thats all I can remember now...

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Ohh...here's another gross one....I once heard a man j*rk off....and when he was ejaculating ....he made the grossest...nastiest gutural sound ever.....i got so sick.....i went cold all over....and i felt faint....he was so disgustingly repulsive......

:)barf ........so I guess "groaning, deep nasty male sounds moaning......even now when i remember that....i get chills...and feel sick to my stomach...even now....i can taste bile in my mouth...and I can feel my stomach contracting.......ewwwwwwwww :)barf

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I have a few triggers that could be considered odd

-long hallways

-heavy footsteps

-open doors (if the room they lead into is dark)

-closed doors (sometimes)

-doors without locks

-seeing a doorknob turn

-people knocking on my bedroom door

-hearing someone come home

-people dressed in all white

-catholicism in general (no offense to anyone)

-extremely nice/polite/well mannered people

-a phone ringing at odd hours

-hearing grasshoppers outside at night

- seeing older adults with young children (even in a completely innocent way)

- any kind of thudding sound (this is a huge trigger for me)

- flourescent lighting (the kind that have a slight bluish tint)

yeah, I'm weird LOL

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Some others I've recently discovered...

Madras comforters

Bright sunlight filtering through trees

innertubes

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Few more

- blinking holiday lights, strung randomly in a big window.

- a certain record album cover - don't even know the name of it. Or something laid out the way it is (head shot of two ladies).

- Chevy Chase, Martin Short, Steve Martin movie Three Amigos. The actors sometimes too, but fortunately not very often, 'cause I like their other stuff.

- TV show Connections; I'm currently fighting that one, because hubby wants to show it to the kids. He's showing different seasons from the one that sets me off the worst, but it's still the same narrator...

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Some triggers:

Watching the Hallmark channel to fall asleep

Rachael Ray

Taking a shower...only sometimes though...haven't figured it out yet

Waking up to somebody walking in to my bedroom

Being told "I love you" during sex

Anything to do with moving...packing, boxes, etc.

Some episodes of the Sopranos

Text messages on my cell phone

If my son wakes up in the middle of the night crying

Hearing somebody shout my name

Doors without locks

Any guy who looks vaguely similar

Any time I hear the same name

When someone mispronounces my last name the way he did

When someone asks me where the party is at

When anyone plays with my hair

Corona

Rum and Coke

Guys who chew tobacco

Having a colposcopy

People moving around in the house when I'm trying to go to sleep

wow...i could keep listing, but it's 3:05 AM and I have to go to bed...this probably wasn't the best thing to do right before bed...oops :down:

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oh lets see.

Like Ashley-Michelle said ....being touched when I'm sleeping....that's big

(my husband just doesn't seem to geth that)

anyone touching my head or face

doors....(Took the one off my bedroom)

locks

certain music

certain smells

trying to pray during sex......that's a huge one

closing my eyes during sex

gyn visits .............................haven't been in years

sheesh! I better stop.

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:(

dog collars

sometimes when i'm in a very bad place mentally, seeing my puppies walk in the room

a certain song

a male name

the movie's 'dead man walking' and 'monster'

cottages, and the thought of docks

old wells

yelling

birthdays

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-unnecessary displays of nakedness

-The Black Crows

-one of my co-workers when he gets too close to me

-the same co-worker when he comes over to my desk when no one is around

-the same co-worker when he touches me – putting his hand on my shoulder or touching the top of my head

-being told I’m pretty, cute or anything of that nature

-being told someone has thought of me in “that way”

-being looked at in “that way”

-sex scenes on TV or in movies

-any rape or near rape scenes in movies

-knowing I’ve been touched while I was sleeping or while the other person thought I was sleeping

-the scene in the movie “Hostage” where the girl is tied to the bed

-someone talking dirty to me

-men who act aggressively perverted, even if they are joking

-my x-husband getting too close to me

-people telling me to talk because they like the sound of my voice

-being stared at

-being complimented on how I look

-being called a whore or a slut

-hearing the word rape

-talk about sex and sex toys (especially people talking very openly about it)

-being stereotyped because of the music I listen to and having tattoos

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I know I have a long list; a few that stand out:

ESPN Sportscenter

college dorms

long institutional corridors

public restrooms

my place of employment

AOL (using it, seeing the logo, someone mentioning it in conversation)

guns

violent scenes in movies and on tv (probably video games, too, but I don't play them)

being confined, restricted, controlled physically or otherwise

being called sweetie, sugar, love, baby, etc...

hearing my name by anyone other than a friend/relative

anyone walking up behind me, especially males

the noise my refrigerator makes when there's no other noise

lawnmower motors

smell of gin

a certain model wooden dining chair

talk on news of bombs, terrorism, hostages, beheadings, etc

shopping centers and malls

being in a crowded loud place

touched by strangers, even by accident-like at malls, concerts, etc

ice storms/sleet

anyone grabbing my ankles

being tickled

garden hoses

brown/tan bed linens

any unfamiliar man's voice getting close to me when I'm in a confined space

Yeah, there are more but that's enough for now.

Edited by mzbookwrm

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good idea

* beer breath

* movie's and tv show's that talk about rape

* someone coming up behind me and touching me

* Old men lookin at me

-jen

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*Baby oil

*Babyoil & rubbing alcohol mixed together

*older men

*sound of mens electric shaver

*certain aftershave

*zest soap

*Seeing soap on someones face

*smell of any beer on a mans breath

*laying on my stomach

*seeing anyone else lay on their stomach (especially kids) - definate No no !

*tickling or tickle fights- definate no no !

*any man even glancing my way (except hubby)

*sexual shows

*show that have sexual assault

*wearing underwear

*anything touching down there (hence the underwear)

*taking a bath (hence water touching down there)

*showers, especially in basements

(this makes it very triggering to try to take a bath or shower.. but I do)

*cocky/arrogant men

*seeing men give kids affection or holding their hands

*the crook in my arms (where they take blood) I was held down right there.

*anyone touching my butt (a playful pinch, smack, soft touch) NO !

*after sex drippage)- makes me ill

*old fashion shaver/razors (the kind you had to twist it to open the head & then put in a new razor).

*nasty old men

*harmonicas

*pocketwatches

*pocket knives

*anything to do with trains (real trains)

*someone walking in when I am using the bathroom

*sounds of footsteps coming to my bedroom when I am in bed already

*older mens hands (I can tell which ones are safe & which aren't)

*any man of any age that seems to just be hangin around an area that young teens or young kids are at.

* peppermint schnops (sp)

*old phonographs & the tubular things that was played on them (music or old tales).

*westerns

*oltime black lunchboxes

*men that are angry

*seeing cases of beer in the basement

*pooltables

*old/antique tools

*the smell of old oil/grease in a garage/car shop

*the smell of drugs on a man

*being made to feel guilty if i don't want sex

*hearing a knife being sharpened with the old long thing that they pull the knife up & down it.

*hearing a knife used to cut beer cans open

*beer cans that have been cut open

*Raw fish before they are cleaned

*a man changning a childs diaper (if I don't know them)

*a man going into a childs room to check on them during their sleep.

*older men with their shirts off (especially with big, hairy, nipples

*any man that puts a woman down or ""puts her in her place"".

*Frog gigging

*Snapping turtles

*Fish hooks

*Campers

*suspositiries

*enemas

*douches

thats most of them except....... Possible *T*

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>MAY TRIGGER BELOW<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

*semen, can't stand to see it, smell it, keep it away from me !

I didn't used to be that way... that has gotten worse the last 10 years.

sorry so long

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cant stand having anyone look at me while im naked

throwing up (doing it seeing it hearing about it - anything to do with it sets me off in meltdown mode)

the smell of pot

any situation in which people are drunk (yes that makes life hard sometimes)

carlton (football club) boxer shorts

chocolate coated strawberries (can handle chocolate and strawberries separately tho)

flying

the Melbourne Cup (dont ask!!!)

any sex scene at all on tv

any talk of sex especially by guys

being touched especially when not expecting it or its a slap on the arse or something

being called a specific nickname (thankfully hasnt happened in ages)

being alone with guys im not 110% comfortable with

being alone in a public place

having a bath with a guy

any comment that is made by a guy that in my mind implies that he thinks men are better than women

seeing my friends holding hands or kissing their partners (i dont know why? its not like the kisses are ever anything more than pecks???)

girl on top sex (more so than others for some reason)

Edited by zasspa

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