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Anybody else have weird triggers?

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Yes, Krismase that does help.

Different things make me feel different ways.  Like, tv shows or stories with that kind of thing in it will make me feel sick to my stomach, like I can't breathe, or tbh slightly aroused. Which then brings on guilt,shame, etc.   hugs or people in my space make me feel panicked or like I have to get away.  I'm afraid to sleep in upstairs bedrooms.  Is that what you all are talking about?

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@glitterandcupcakes yes. sometimes when i watch shows more so when i was younger before i had any memory resurface if i was watching a show where something bad was about to happen to a child. usually a girl i would get this feeling in my stomach and sometimes i was get aroused but at the time i didn't know that was what i was feeling. it brings  about a lot of shame. and disgust. theres a guy i work with and he says "thata girl" to me at times and man the first time he said it i dropped what i was carrying and it was like a punch to my stomach. it froze me. then for weeks i avoided him. i know he didn't do it on purpose. i don't like how he talks to me but i don't feel like i can do anything about it so i work on reminding myself that i am safe and not in danger from this man. that i am an adult now. that i am not that little girl.

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That makes sense. I'm glad you realize you're safe now.

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I have a crap ton of triggers, but the weirdest one (and somewhat funny now that I think of it) is Gone With the Wind

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My daughter has one that was surprising which is walking down a street with shops on both sides. She's explained and I totally get why that is. She's come a long way in her recovery so it doesn't trigger as much now.

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My worse trigger is belts, if it's on someone I'm scared their gonna take it off. If it's on the floor or hanging up I'm scared he might use it. For the same reason I get scared of the sound of a swishing belt or anything that makes that sound like a tennis bat/fly swat.

Doors that stick, you can't open and shut them easily.

Bathrooms, large baths, frosted glass.

Smell of beer. 

Damp carpet.

People getting to close and not listening/getting the hint to back off.

 

 

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Smell of old liquor.  

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The smell of fireball

Lavender (ALMOST broke that one and I'm so happy because lavender is so fucking soothing)

Older men's hands.

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  • Childhood cartoons from the 1980s
  • The sounds, smells, and sights of carnivals or fairs
  • Any references to the Book of Revelations in the Bible
  • Tongue depressors, throat swabs, dental tools, etc. (basically anything put in my mouth by someone other than me)
  • Sort of related to the above: wooden spoons, toothpicks, or popsicle sticks (even just watching someone else suck on a wooden popsicle stick squicks me out)
  • Being seated on the inside or middle seat of a booth at a restaurant (also being seated in the window or middle seat on a plane if I'm sitting next to a stranger)
  • Long nails on men
  • The smell of cheap drug store cologne
  • Large adult men with buzz cut hair
  • The visible rolls of fat / humps very overweight men sometimes have on the back of their heads
  • Prolonged tickling or roughhouse play, no matter how innocent the intent of the person doing it
  • Hearing the Unsolved Mysteries or Rescue 911 theme songs
  • Motels with individual doors facing the street or parking lot (as opposed to hotels with a central lobby entrance)
  • Truck stops after dark
  • Archie comics
  • The smell of cheap potpourri or bathroom air freshener
  • The growling and barking noises small, yappy dogs (like poodles or chihuahuas) make
  • A lot of things associated with charismatic, evangelical churches (especially Pentecostal churches) like fire and brimstone style preaching, speaking in tongues, the constant interjections of church members in the form of praying out loud, dancing, abruptly jumping up from their seats, etc. 
  • Bathrooms with multiple entrances
  • Bowls of sliced lemons
  • Sweet'N Low packets

 

Edited by fightingforpeace

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I don't know about weird, but...

The smell and feel of sweat. The feeling of being sweaty or of sweat (or water, like from my hair after a shower) rolling down my body is also very hard to tolerate.

Feeling someone else's breath on my skin

The sound of someone else breathing. 

Male sighing or groaning always feels threatening

Sometimes teasing from friends or family makes me feel scared and helpless

Many negative emotions trigger intrusive thoughts - embarassment, anger, confusion, ANXIETY, loneliness

Having my period

Someone not hearing me or ignoring me, and/or having to repeat myself to get someone's attention.

Squeaky or thumpy noises that repeat at a fixed interval

My hands when I have to grip fabric with not just the tips of my fingers.

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Long beards

The smell of fireball whiskey

Cigarette Smell

trailers

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On 10/3/2017 at 4:27 PM, Guest lesolitaire said:

Having my period

This is recent one for me, and it's very upsetting.

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Slang terms for female genitalia. 

Shaving 

'Close talkers' - personal space / bubble is a HUGE one.

Having my escape route blocked, not having an escape route. 

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I'm reading through all of your comments in complete awe of how strong you guys all are for sharing your triggers.  It's something I have been talking about with my support worker recently and no matter how many times she tells me it is a completely normal, and completely understandable reaction to trauma, I just can't make myself believe what I understand...does that make sense? I know it's normal, but still feel like I'm losing it? 

I haven't really shared much about what happened to me with many people and have only started talking to my support worker recently about what triggers me, but the definite triggers I've identified so far:

•him, seeing him, him talking to me, others talking about him, particularly where people are being positive about him (he has now moved back to the town where I live)

•anything covering my face, neck, arms and legs, basically anything that makes me feel restricted.  Most clothing is ok, but if it feels a certain way I can feel myself getting more and more anxious until I can change/reposition it.  Things like bedding lying on me a certain way cause the same reaction

•unexpected touches (by people or objects), particularly if I can't see it coming before it/they touch me

•bleeding (have had a 6+ month long period so this one is just ace 😩)

•medical procedures, particularly anything gynae/gastro, which is unfortunate as I have issues in both of these areas.  I actually had a minor gynae operation a week ago and suspect this may be why I'm feeling low at the moment 

•scars on my arm/chest sustained during the assault.  The one on my arm was very close to causing a panic attack last week while in hospital as they were trying to put me under as they couldn't find a vein to put me under for the op and when they did manage to get one it's right where my scar is and I felt awful 

•strawberry scented things.  It's not really a trigger as such, I don't think? He made a comment about me smelling of strawberries recently and it's changed how I feel about them, to the point I don't want to use my favourite shower gel-I'm working on this not becoming the issue it could, as I don't want to give up yet another thing that makes me feel uncomfortable because of him

•knives, or if I'm already struggling, anything with a sharp or pointed edge (to the point I have to remove them from sight)

•darker nights, particularly walking to and from work if it's dark 

•people turning up at my house unexpectedly, knocking at my door, unknown callers on my house phone/mobile 

•a particular men's fragrance (I don't know what it is or if it is even a specific brand, there's just a certain smell some men have and it could be a mix of products for all I know)

•certain sexually explicit phrases that he either used during the assualt, or has said to me since (I can't even type them, but I probably wouldn't as I suspect they may be triggering for others) 

•any conversations about rape, assualt or anything even remotely related.  I find it particularly difficult when others don't believe those who have experienced it, or if they make comments about the perpetrator in a positive light (I'm sure this is a rarely common issue amongst us)

•latex.  I have a pretty bad latex allergy (and other allergies) and I feel I'm far more likely to overreact to seeing something that potentially contains latex in it, than I am to seeing something that contains another allergen.  I had my first mild reaction to latex during/following the assualt (although I didn't know that's what it was at the time) and I feel like I associate latex with this rather than just one of my other allergies, if that makes sense? 

I feel like I've just written a book, sorry guys!

S x

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Hm....

Overweight men, since my abuser was a really heavy man and it always reminds me of him

Having exits blocked or feeling trapped, especially if it's during sex/sexual situations

The word cu*sl** is especially bad. (I don't know if any of you can figure out that word with the stars but I didn't feel comfortable typing it out...). The first time I was with my abuser intimately he wrote "(his name)'s cu*sl**" on my stomach in sharpie, as if to mark me as his property.

When I first got together with my boyfriend I even had a hard time with just the word sl** on it's own since I got with him almost right after I finally left my abuser, but over time I've gotten a bit better with it, but if it's used in a certain tone, sometimes I still don't like it

:trigger:

The idea of a threesome with two men makes me very very nervous as well. Does that count as a trigger? I've done some things where it's me and my boyfriend and another woman, but the thought of two men still makes me anxious and freeze up, since my initial SA occurred with two men. Also, darker skinned men as well is included, since the other man was darker skinned as well as my abuser during my SA incident.

Those are the main ones, I don't have too too many off the top of my head right now. 

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