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Anybody else have weird triggers?

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I can only think of a few. I'm working on my healing so I thought I would post and share what my triggers are.

*The middle room in a hallway
*Dark hallways
*The old roll-top desks
*Gun cabinets
*Twin size beds
*Hearing about other children being abused

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[quote name='lultimanotte' timestamp='1194758788' post='584842']
any sexual talk...or slang.....

r*pe scenes.....or s*x scenes.....


the words: "retarded, abnormal, freak"


people telling me that im lying. even if its about something stupid.


oh goodness i could be here for a week if i write anymore
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adding to myself.

family guy.
being grabbed from behind.

fat men. (most were fat) :(

alcohol

someone grabbing my wrist

any sexual talk at all

human sexuality and being a woman

(im getting worse :tear:

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Great idea, Only recently was I able to write these down so I thought I'd share. Sorry for there being so many. :blush:

Red hair
Red face
Crossed eyes
The smell of beer
Frosties (The cereal)
Ball pits
Being tickled
Snow White and the Seven Dwarves
Drunken shouting or arguing
Beams on a ceiling
Being under a blanket and having someone put their hand under it.
Goodnight kisses
Low fires
When there's no lock on a bathroom door
Play fighting
Losing time
The word 'd*ck'
Nightdresses with cartoons or logos on them
Certain episodes of The Simpsons
The smell of urine
Being kissed on the forehead
The colour orange
His name
Waking suddenly
Praying
Being tied up
Sink basins filled with water
People thinking I'm ignoring them
Waking up naked and not having remembered taking off my clothes
Camping
Sudden pain

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Great thread. Here goes:

being tickled
anything loud - noises, voices, music...
anyone behind me
anything/anyone touching my neck
being awakened by touch
being touched in the dark
the sound of heavy breathing in the dark
agressive criticism or anger
any obstacle (particularly a person) between me and the exit
crowded places
people standing too close
doors
anything over my face or too close to my face
anything over my mouth
certain smells
anyone touching/holding my wrist(s) (even children)
anyone within reach raising a hand for any reason
violent shows or movies
sexual shows or movies
sexual talk
public sexual behavior
a particular person's name
certain cars (a particular make/model/color)

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some of my triggers;

-waking up laying on my back

-men in caps

-certain guys aftershave

-anyone trying to hug me

-wearing button up shirts/blouses

-whispering

-standing in cues near men

-TV/movie scenes of R

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*Anyone touching me (without fair warning)
*people standing too close
*the smell of diesel fuel
*open doors or windows at night
*yellow motorbikes



Phew! That's quite a list there are others but I can't post more right now. Take care all

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Ugh.

Strong cologne
Porn
ra*e scenes, sex scenes, college boy humor, coming of age stories
Young girls wearing too much make up and high heels
Ridiculously rich people showing off on reality shows
Rock stars, Politicians,professional athletes, movie stars
Butt grabs or smacks
The smell of whiskey
Sunset Blvd
malls
car wash places
June
Riding in the passenger seat

dot dot dot....
:)barf

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-Pecan Sandies
-Care Bears 2
-Little blonde girls with their fathers (especially if he's kind of biker-ish)
-The song "Take My Breath Away"
-People being behind me
-People looking at me, or being in the same room as me, when I'm trying to go to sleep
-My grandpa
-Children (I hyperventilate, or have to really try to play it cool)
-The smell of charcoal grills
-Being cold (ESPECIALLY while naked)

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- handsome guys
- guys who work out
- every man actually
- every kind of touching ( especially grabbing wrist or neck)
- hugs
- dark blue sheets
- white plastic bags
- minority report the movie
- dirty dancing music
- red cars
- motocycles
- rabbits
- key noises
- ravioli pastas
- male talking to me
- my period
- male trying to flirt with me
- trains
- big mirrors
- sexual content in movies/conversation
- his name
- some dark grey sofa
- buddha statues
- sink
- doing the dishes
- ringbell
- cigarette smoke
- Some kind of tatoos
- candies
- some radio station
- some yoga poses like lying on the back doing yogi breathnwith eyes closed
- green balls or balloons
- gun ( even in photo, movie or in policeman pocket)
- me... ( looking at me on the mirror)
- the word "princess"

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[list][*]Football[*]green and yellow jerseys[*]mangos[*]talking or thinking about fisting[*]people who are taller than me (esp males)[*]people who are broader/look stronger or heavier than me (esp males)[*]gmail chat[*]blue carpets[*]printed pictures[*]long straight hair on girls[*]messy black liner on girls (just on top lid)[*]the places THEY call home[*]being quizzed on song names, dates in history or names[*]anything about football[*]tongues (seeing them)[*]beards[*]someone saying 'mine' to me[*]specific types of slang[*]did I mention football[*]and football. anything about it, watching it, people yelling about it, ANYTHING to do with.... how it works. (i cant even write out the stuff. makes me nauseous.)[*]images of r*pe, ab*se, indifference to people's personal boundaries[*]degrading jokes[*]the term "p*ssy with life support"[/list]

and football. god I hate it so much.

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the smell of achool an cigrets when i am kissing a guy and blond hair and blue eyes on a man

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My triggers...animal abuse commercials
A child crying
Mean or bossy women
Hinton, wv
Camping (I'm trying very hard to get over this one)
People who can't or won't face reality
Robert de Niro
Bill oreilly
Incompetence
Injustice
The band ELO

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Muffled voices.
People standing in front of a window or doorway so bright that you can't see their faces.
Other things that are less strange, too... these are just the 2 that I don't understand.

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Thank you for posting what triggers you.
Mine are Hands on my shoulders
being tickled( this is extremely painful physically to me)
The smell of cigarretts
Anyone using the "F" word
Rape scenes in movies. I'll turn it off immediately
risk of possible relationship with a man.
hearing the word "Babe"
I have lots others but it's triggering me to even think of them.
Love and peace to all in Pandoras aquarium.

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[font="Segoe UI"]I don't know if these are triggers, per se, but I hate them and they make me extremely uncomfortable:

-- terms of endearment (especially from men)
-- hearing/reading anything about CSA (Sandusky trial, ugh)
-- tickling (double ugh)
-- anyone touching my ears (especially men)
-- anyone pinching/squeezing the fat on my belly or arms (especially men)[/font] Edited by blackbird86

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the smell of bleach
the smell of old spice or brut
people sneaking up behind me
twilight- when the sun goes down and it gets darker
washcloths
old men with big belly

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[quote name='lultimanotte' timestamp='1338871877' post='1650952']
[quote name='lultimanotte' timestamp='1194758788' post='584842']
any sexual talk...or slang.....

r*pe scenes.....or s*x scenes.....


the words: "retarded, abnormal, freak"


people telling me that im lying. even if its about something stupid.


oh goodness i could be here for a week if i write anymore
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adding to myself.

family guy.
being grabbed from behind.

fat men. (most were fat) :(

alcohol

someone grabbing my wrist

any sexual talk at all

human sexuality and being a woman

(im getting worse :tear:
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wedgies. i dont know why...

a melissa etheridge song......dont remember which. any songs that played during cookouts in the 90s.

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Mine are:
being held down even whrn playing around
any music by journey
Bright dance rave lights
Techno music
being drunk (brings back the feeling of being drugged)
smell of pine cleaner
being touched without my permission
anything sexual.

Its been 5 years and I'm still messed up

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[quote name='marlene49' timestamp='1336977431' post='1638394']
Last week... in a dentist's chair, resulting in a full blown panic attack and thinking that I was crazy.
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Were you given sedation of any kind. It happened to me in a dentist chair too. Weird huh?

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They're not really triggers as much, but still make me feel blecky:

-Bright colored decorating hearts, heart shaped boxes of chocolate, really anything valentines day related.
-Having my wrists held, or having my arms held above my head
-Pinching or specific special attention to my nipples especially
-Having to walk through slush or any kind of wet snow
-Any kind of rape or abuse in the media. I almost vomited while watching The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo.

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anyone stroking, touching or playing with my hair

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[quote name='~Lily' timestamp='1340771143' post='1663945']
anyone stroking, touching or playing with my hair
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that kind of bothers me too. i know it is kind of a natural thing to do if it is consentual.

honestly i dont know why it triggers me. just makes me feel small and guilty for complaining about hurts i guess....

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I have a lot I'm realizing. And others are also appearing. Just all seem so strange because some are just words.

*Having my arms and hands restrained in any way. (docs tried this recently and I freaked out)

*Seatbelts, I feel trapped

*closed spaces in cars. (the 4rth of July, I rode to the fireworks with family member and they wanted to put me in the middel but I started panicking)

*R word or jokes..someone on twitter did this recently and I went off

*blaming abuse victims in any way

*the span*** word (can't stand to even hear a parent say it and I will go off)

* belts or hearing them come undone

* I now hate the word panties so bad

* loud cars

* being alone in the dark at times

* Being in a crowd

* men staring at me even if it is innocent

* loud noises

* yelling, even if it isn't yelling directed at me

* anger even if it's not directed at me (feel bad it seems my bf can't be in a bad mood or I get scared and upset)

* pain..even if it's some other kind of pain not dealing with what happened... makes me remeber the physical pain

* blood

*needles (I always had a phobia of needles but now it's even worse)

* lying on my stomach makes me freak out

* storms

* Now hands and that's the weirdest one

* some sex talk

I have sooo many I may add more later...I am still figuring out what some of mine are. Edited by NicPY82

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I've been reading all these replies for almost half an hour... You have all have given me strength.
I never truly admitted to myself that I have 'triggers'.. but hopefully compiling a list and writing it down will help me be more aware of my thoughts/actions.


Spread legs
Open bedroom doors
Alcohol-laced breath
Paranoia about my parents having sex (a weird, new one that only started a few months ago)
Surprising physical contact (ie. a hug from behind)
Cigarette smoke
When a male walks around in only underwear (especially my father or brother)
Being alone at night
Beds, especially my bed and bunk-beds.

And in general, any male that has passed, or is currently in, puberty makes me uncomfortable.. I need to get past that one for sure :( Edited by happyydays

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