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Anybody else have weird triggers?

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"*when someone says "my turn"..(yeah, even a simple board game is out of the question for me..it always gets said)"

Aaaaaaaaah as soon as I read this I became furious! I agree "My Turn" said in a certain way is awful!

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-Tom & Jerry, not all cartoons...just that one

-blood

-brooms

-blonde haired professional looking men

-boys screaming, even if it's like they're just playing or whatever it doesn't matter

-Lisa Frank stuff

-yard sticks

-ties

Tom & Jerry and Lisa Frank stuff are the weirdest

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The movie Billy Madison

People grabbing my wrists or shoulders/neck

Hearing any word that sounds like rape.. I get a horrible gut wrenching feeling

Being stared at. I think I just feel like people can see it on me or something

Looking into mens eyes. He made me keep my eyes open.

Any touch, really.

My weirdest one is probably the first one. He loved it and I used to.

Gosh, this is really triggering just thinking about them.

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The surprising thing is, Law and Order SVU is one of my favorite shows. It doesn't trigger me as much as I thought it would. I really suggest watching that if anyone has a hard time. It makes you not feel alone.

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I get triggered by too many things to list, the list would be in the hundreds.

They range from things like eating sausages or seeing white sauce to having a shower, being on my hands and knees for any reason, lying on my back, hearing swear words, tall people, sitting next to people standing, blonde guys, hand cuffs, period blood, blood of any kind, needles, piercings, white bed sheets, sofa beds, the list goes on. I am constantly getting triggered multiple times every day. My stress and anxiety are through the roof all the time because of it. I can never escape from the memories because everything reminds me of something bad. I have been hurt so many times :tear: i don't know how to move on.

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I get triggered by many everyday things. A man opening the door for me, someone putting their hands on my head, anyone sneaking up behind me, someone playing with my hair, listening to music, dark hair, men in suits, formal dinners, wearing a skirt, playing with my hair, children having having high temperatures, lights down low, children crying, going to the store, dark movie theaters, and any kind of affection being shown to me or to anyone.

* I have made a commitment to try and get rid of some of my triggers.

* One is to dress nice and wear a skirt once a week to work.

* Allow men to open doors for me.

* Listen to music and allow myself to remember "WHO I AM", not just what happened to me. I had many more good times than bad times, but the bad stand out so much more.

I want to be the beautiful me I once was, without all the terror that came with it. I want to be free to live my life again, happy and care free.

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For my birthday I got an ipod touch. I love it. I have downloaded many meditations, pranayama, yoga, mindwave audios to help deal with stress, anxiety, pain, and many other things. I have such a hard time breathing. Sometimes I wonder if it is physical pain, or mental pain causing it to hurt so bad.

Logging on here brings up so many things, but it seems like the only way for me to find ways to heal.

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You know what's interesting. I was talking to my mom about what I thought my "weird" trigger was and she gave me advice about a) not judging it and b) seeing it as apart of your story. Of course, triggers still suck, but I'm getting much better at not beating myself up for having what I thought was a silly trigger. :)

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Tie dye. (Yes. Seriously.)

Balding men who wear what remains of their hair in ponytails.

Fat men.

Yuppies/corporate speak.

Snot on my face.

Movies with Dirk Bogarde (he seriously looks like my perp).

There are others but those are the main ones.

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It's been a while since I had obvious triggers, but just happened this weekend. Totally caught me off guard.

Here are some of mine:

Regaton music(this weekend)

Sean Paul (the musician)

Hyundai cars

carnival or fair

certain Spanish phrases

bungee jumping

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Guys wearing white T-shirts

Certain aspects of Catholicism/Conservative political views

Any shows with sex/any form of abuse

Mentions of abuse/rape/sex

Really skinny, tall, pale blonde men/teens.

Anyone touching me in anyway (except my best friend)

Loud, startling noises

Wooden picnic tables

Chain link fences

Concrete brick walls (schools, particularly)

If I'm in a bad place, most desk utensils

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I have a lot of "normal triggers" such as most guys, sex on tv, people joking about rape and ect.

So weirder one's are I also have.....

A clicking clock in the silence

Certain phrases or nicknames

Fast driving

People asking too many questions

Rough-housing and sudden movements

Being home alone

Stuff brushing against my skin

Smell of Scotch & weed on someone

Things around my neck, like tight necklaces

I probably have a lot more, just hard to remember them all.

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As odd as it sounds, though I am blind (I see only light and dark. Ie I can see a white sofa on a dark brown carpet as a dark mass the size of the sofa but, I can't tell what fabric is on the sofa or if it is a shag or berber carpet.) I have a few visual triigers. The description of some images is enough for me to visualize them, and they will trigger me. Other trigger are cued by my other senses.

Burned children, especially thin boys.

Boas (feather wraps)

Taboo perfume

Anal beads, though a plug is fine.

Men who are close talkers (don't respect my personal space)

Jive talk

"My boy" from one male to another.

"Good boy" Said in a sexual encounter.

Needles

Sound of a Zippo lighter

Smell of cigarette smoke

Smell of burnt flesh

Smell of burnt hair

Calling street drugs liquid candy or feel good.

Anything by Pat Benetar (These Boots being the worst)

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Really great thread! Some of my weird ones...

Having my back to a door

The sound of people walking above me (for instance, I'm downstairs and they're walking upstairs)

Adult voices yelling at each other

The sound of a vacuum cleaner

Anything having to do with a hospital renal unit

Being locked in/trapped

The gospel chorus "Do Lord" (MASSIVE for me, probably the biggest on this list)

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Even as a secondary survivor I have triggers that bring me anger for what happened to the person I love.

1. Seeing photos of the girl that cheated with my daughters BF when they had a small tiff.... that is because her BFF told me praying on guys that will be an easy night is her M.O.

2. Seeing any girls that are giving the impression to a guy that they are not dating that tonight will be just fine!

3. Thinking about the lack of support my daughter is getting from her room mate - whose distancing began before the incident and was why my daughter went out with a group she didn't know well.

4. The thought of porn, of any kind.

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being too tired

being too hungry

being too full

being at home with my kids too many days in a row

being held down

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I made a discovery the other day. A bird pooped on me and I triggered. Seagull poop seriously feels like... Something else...

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Rape scenes on tv

Seeing someone with bruises

My big one is Police

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There's the run of standard ones: weight on my chest, certain sexual things. But the weird ones?

-Hondas. Any model.

-Discussion of Daniel Quinn's "Ishmael" novels.

-Easter. Its approach, specifically.

Used to blues music from before 1960 was on that list, but that one's getting a lot better, finally. Which I think is quite a victory. I missed it.

What a great thread.

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Certain smells will trigger me, that's when I start to get this out of bounds feeling. Looking about and than understanding it was that smell of when two people have been together.

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Webcams,

Any type of hole in walls,

sitting at desks,

Anyone who looks anything like him,

The crazy messages he still sends me not matter how many times I tried to stop his contact he always finds me and I have just given up trying,

The other girl he hurt. Every time I look at her I wonder if she blames me for not reporting him right away for what he did to me so she would have never been in the situation where he hurt her far worse.

Seeing people with dragon, lemmy, or vengeful in their user name.

Any time anyone talks about thunder bay (where he once lived).

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red pickups

mannerisms and looks and statements from my kids that are like their dad

certain cologne

people from my past religious faith

hands holding me firmly/any slight bit forceful

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People named Scott

Fat men

Curb Your Enthusiasm

The Art of War

aaaand

pulled pork. :confused:

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Bathtubs-- this one is strange because I love bathes, but sometimes they trigger vivid memories. It sucks.

Some bathrooms (my current apartment's bathroom is a trigger) :o:

Really bloody periods

Complacent authority figures

Authority figures who abuse their power

Overly masculine men

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Apparently I am hugely triggered by wearing scarves. Found that out today. Good to know....

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