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Anybody else have weird triggers?

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the smell of fresh cut grass

the smell of cigars

sometimes the smell of body odor...

anybody else have lots of... smell... triggers???

Umm, i do.

The smell of vomit, nail varnish remover, body odour, a joint, chlorine (no idea why i have that one) and occasionally smelly shoes/feet

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the smell of curry

school yards

school shelters

people making noise when they eat

being toched

my sisters friends

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The sound of blinds closing

Locked doors

Science classrooms

Bunsen burners

Those light-sensitive glasses that change color

People touching me

People coming up behind me

Having my hair touched

Wooden stalls

Sugar paper

Marker pens

His name

The school he taught at

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hmm, a few of mine are:

someone touching my neck, wrist, or shoulders.

someone touching me from behind.

the smell of sweat and dirt.

any man between 25-45 with brown hair.

people that are too nice/overly friendly.

anyone calling me sweetie or baby.

compliments on physical appearance. (these usually make me gag.)

guys that have big egos.

being out at night and passing a man.

sunsets.

and the weirdest is probably golden retrievers.

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Door locks, mens hands, the colour black, anyone saying that I look nice, wearing skirts / heels / jewellery, the beach, physical contact, things round my neck, & the weirdest one is a noise I sometimes get in my ears (a kind of buzzing) it still terrifies me.

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some of mine r:

billboards for the GA aquarium shark exhibit (Which we visited)

the world of coke(we also visited)

the country of Morocco (im sure its a great place but he was from there)

men with soft voices

guys touching my neck

lenox square

how to train ur dragon (we saw this together)

phipps plaza

the W hotel in buckhead

absinthe

the GA aquarium

alcohol

i was a victim of date r*pe, so that's why sum of mine seem kind of weird, but they really r triggers for me and if i see them or they happen to me i freak out or just shut down:/

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The scent of vanilla is a big one of mine.

Not sure how common that one is =/

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some of mine:

being in crowded areas (like clubs and bars)

anything/anyone middle eastern especially Iranian

some types of music

Massari (singer)

being hugged if I did not initiate it(by anyone other than my boyfriend)

being inside apartment buildings

the word rape, rape jokes, etc

wearing shorts, skirts or dresses

seeing girls who dress too revealingly

baseball caps

smell of middle eastern type food esp. shawarmas

russia

seeing clothes that i was abused in

feeling sticky

looking men in the eyes

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Mine are similar to many already posted...

- my hands being above my head

- my wrists being grabbed

- rape talk and scenes in movies

- using the word rape out of context

- forests/woods (trying to reclaim this!)

and

- receiving oral

- being sober while my boyfriend has been drinking and wants to have sex (never forcibly! but it triggers past memories)

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Some of mine are:

~Foot massages, or even just people touching my feet/legs

~Horses

~Fruit bats

~a certain style of single bed..

~Apple turnover pastries

older style landrovers

~Red cars (this is a big one for me, i don't think i could own a red car now..)

~a nickname that alot of people still call me

~swimming in creeks

~the dark

~Hearing people moving around after i have gone to bed and it is dark..

~people (especially men) touching my face or head, especially if they try to hold my head still after i try to move away - like at the doctor or dentist

~ Motorbikes and people wearing motor bike gear

~older, balding men in general

~r*pe jokes

~my abusers name, even if its referring to a completely different person

I'm pretty sure there are lots more, i might add some more later.

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hmmm...I can think of a few to start...

Kiss - God of Thunder (song), that triggers the hell out of me

Star Wars - A favorite, but a nasty trigger

Smell of dried cut grass

Juicy Fruit

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Interesting... It really got me thinking about some weird triggers of mine. This is what I came up with:

- People smoking pot

- The scent of a guy sweating

- The scent of deoderant for men

- Any dominant man

- Tall men with long hair

- People doing things I didn't see coming

- People making (sudden) loud noises

- The town were my parents live, especially a certain bar

- Old friends

- The whole metal-scene really

- People making jokes about certain sex acts

- People talking about certain sex acts in general (like a guy I know, he works at a sex shop, and he has all kinds of stories...those stories often trigger me)

- People calling certain women sluts

Hmm...I have more triggers, but those are kind of 'regular' I think.

But...when I read through this list, I guess most of the triggers aren't REALLY weird... but well...this is what I came up with :).

xxx

Black_rose

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not so weird, but:

lying on my back

people coming up behind me

anyone touching my lower back

stomach aches/cramps

the dark

when people twitch in their sleep (because i do that when i'm having nightmares about it)

rape jokes

violent scenes in movie/tv/books, even if it isn't rape/abuse

sex scenes in movies/tv

sometimes even the thought of sex

loud noises

anything touching the front of my neck

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I've just begun my journey to healing about 2 months ago. Since my abuser/rapist has not been a part of my life for nearly 20 years, to me all the triggers seem weird. But, I've decided to take the next step in healing by joining Pandora's. I saw this thread and thought it might do me good to join in. So, here goes:

rape/abuse/stalking scenes in any media

hearing reports about rape/assault on the news

even discussing the possibility of restraints

anything covering my face or around my neck

wearing anything deemed to be sexy or attractive (more recently this has been the case)

Being called "piggy" or any other derogatory name

being held against my will

seeing my 19 yr old son's face

hairy men

men with bad teeth

men who like to preen in front of the mirror

Star Trek (anything to do with it)

Superman (we were watching this the night we first had sex)

things being thrown or tossed my way (My dad tossed a fork on the table in front of me on Mother's Day and I had a terrible flashback, felt sick to my stomach, could hardly bear to look at let alone pick up and use the fork)

I'm sure there are plenty more, but have never really thought of them. Like I said, I've not even acknowledged or admitted to the abuse and rapes until about 2 months ago. Thank you for being here and willing to share, ladies!

:unsure: Crocus

I have a voice and I have a choice.

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the dark.. if it's too dark I get too scared to even move and I have a panic attack

sick or hurt animals

Bologna

I'm sad to say seeing other fathers/step-fathers and daughters together does it too..

Arguing and yelling

Certain songs and radio stations

Short beards on older males

The door to my bedroom being open or unlocked at night

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Whoa, I'm not the only one with really bizarre triggers...? Lessee...

-Hugging, especially from behind or if I didn't know it was coming

-Men taller than me

-Red hair

-Looking people in the eyes

-YELLOW BICYCLES (??? Guy rode a yellow mountain-bike but I'm afraid of EVERY yellow bike, including motorbikes)

-The sound of kissing (ewwwww)

-Square glasses

-Sun dresses

-The word 'Valentine' gives me problems, which is really inconvenient sometimes

-Being alone in front of school lockers

-Touching people

-The feeling of having anything wet or light (like paper, feathers, soap) on my left shoulder or my legs

-Being alone on the subway

-Sleeping on my face (sometimes this happens, I just wake up and I've rolled around in my sleep...)

Worst one:

-People's fingers. Seeing people's fingers. Looking at people's fingers. Seeing fingers doing stuff. Fingers.

I'm a violinist. o_O

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Odd triggers... hmm...

-the obvious stuff

-anything touching my abdomen(the most severe one, even brushing against the countertop while making dinner brought vivid flashbacks)

-Quantum Leap(used to be one of favorite shows, but it was playing on a near-by tv during an attempted rape)

-open doors

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Walls and corners

The first clue my husband, then boyfriend, had.

I was standing in a hallway at the college when a class let out. The resulting flood of students pushed me into a corner and he was standing in front of me, I flipped out.

Oklahoma - the state

TWO SVU episodes, the only ones that ever did. When the CO attempted to rape Olivia undercover in the prison and when she is in the rape counselors office before she joins the group saying she feels like she doesn't deserve to be here.

Sometimes I don't even know what triggered me.

Edited by serena

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Listerine and certain cologne or perfume smells are some of my weirdest ones.

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some of my triggers- that i guess are weird

- cannot be held by my wrist- even playing around

- can't watch " freedom writer's"

- being called beautiful by certain men

- walking anywhere alone

- laying on a couch at night- (during the day perfectly fine)

- whispering in my ear

- some large black men

- being in my house alone

- watching some crime shows like svu- csi- (used to love them)

- silence at night- need music or some type of noise

- wood creeking

- being grabbed

- talking about my mawmaw house

- the way some guys hug me

wow- that's a lot- umm yeah well that's my list- and the triggers don't freak me out like i can function but they cause me to have to focus on some other thought while the moment passes

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I Have A Feeling-Black Eyed Peas

Black F-350 crew cab long box pick-ups

Open windows at night

alcohol

my old car

hugs from anyone

my hometown

homemade mac and cheese (meal my mom made right after I told her)

Cologne

Being grabbed by the wrist

My mom

dirty dancing at all

Edited by 2ndchance

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racist/ethnic jokes

fire stations

basements

Hershey Park O_o

and last but not least, freakin Jagermeister

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pink/blue eyeshadow

bright red lipstick

someone pinning my legs down

whispering in my ear

someone slipping their hand around my back. (brief hugs are ok)

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TWO SVU episodes, the only ones that ever did. When the CO attempted to rape Olivia undercover in the prison and when she is in the rape counselors office before she joins the group saying she feels like she doesn't deserve to be here.

That SVU episode with her undercover triggered me too.

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Hi,

(I'm new here, hence the frequent post editting. I had to do a bit of cut and paste to keep my thoughts within their relevant forums, its hard to keep to any one train of thought at a time but I'll try my best not to ramble :) )

My triggers are:

- specific lamp lighting

- soothing noises and patronizing words during intimate moments

- hands around my throat

- feeling coerced

- too much attention on my butt

- random men on the street that give off a certain vibe

- i imagine if anyone was to call me "kitty cat", it hasn't happened yet luckily

- little girls with men - which is wierd because I wasn't abused as a child :huh:

- rape scenes in films or books

- lines in films/books/rl like "but you wanted it, it's what you wanted.." where the guy acts all confused ARGH!

I too don't always act out on these, its only happened maybe three times where I've freaked out. When I do I need to be wearing as many clothes as is comfortable (and yes a jumper and tracksuit pants can be made comfortable in summer :P), I need to have my back protected (the brave and knightly pillow will usually suffice), all the lights need to be on and funny sitcoms or kids films need to be watched. Oh and if anyone makes a soothing noise at me I hate them. How about you girls?

Edited by self

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