Guest deadpie Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 Well, i have a notebook that has about 8 pages full of just triggers. But my biggest trigger is when I hear the band, "The Cure" and my hair being pulled. I seriously black out to the floor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angel_Kitty Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 (edited) * Cigarette breath * Carrot breath * Beer breath * Drunk guys * Anyone looming over me (only one boyfriend was ever able to do this) * Rope * Someone rubbing my wrists * Gags * Those red handkerchief/head scarf things (I was gagged with them) * Intimacy * Certain shampoos and after shave * A room spray * Shows where a child molester is seen grooming a child or talking about his love for one * The dark (I have to have some sort of light on while I sleep :X) Edited April 2, 2009 by Angel_Kitty Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AvalonStorme Posted May 8, 2009 Share Posted May 8, 2009 Well, let's see. . . My triggers: a completely dark room (I still have to sleep with at least a small light on) whispers (they make my skin crawl, except for my boyfriend) Having my face covered water beds of course r*pe or abuse scene in a movie or book Someone calling me pretty or beautiful This metal box that he had. . . it had a rabbit sticker on it and said "Life's a Beach" Dark five-o-clock shadow, luckily my boyfriend is blond. beer seeing young girls with an older male (like children with their fathers) that's all I can think of right now. ~AvalonStorme~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stealing_wonderland Posted May 24, 2009 Share Posted May 24, 2009 (edited) - My worst trigger is actually my work-place...I work for DCFS (Department of Children and Family Services). I read and hear so much about what these kids have gone/are going through that it's really hard to get through the day with-out getting sick. Then, I feel guilty about being so selfish, and start beating my-self up for that, and so on and so forth. - Guys with pony-tails. I don't really know why. - Scenes on TV/film where the abused character is being forced to talk about it (or being confronted about it). The actual rape/abuse scenes don't trigger me as much as them talking about it does. Again, I don't know why. I suppose it's the flash-back influence be-cause that basically is what I think I'm going through. - Feet. LoL. No-body can come over to my place or get in-to my car un-less they have socks on. I can't sit next to people who aren't wearing socks, etc. This is so bizarre to me (especially as a figure-skater/dancer/trapeze artist). - Being touched -- especially the upper-arms, neck, hair and oblique areas. - Any-one looking at my chest. I wish I could just cut them off. I wear grand-mother clothes and still feel like they're out there for every-one to see. - People whispering in-to my hair/ears. - People raising their hands/arms too quickly. - Not being under my blankets when I turn the lights off. Ever since I was a kid, I haven't been able to get out from under-neath my blankets when it's completely dark in the room. Mind you, I live in S. California, so being under two blankets in 100+ weather gets old real fast.... - The sounds of kissing (especially on TV or in movies). It is sooo disgusting !! Edited June 27, 2009 by stealing_wonderland Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angeleyesong Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 The act of running for exercise- could be anyone broken lightbulbs beer bottles sweaty old men knives guns icepicks movie"The General's Daughter" movie "North Country" anything around neck, wrist, or ankles red hot burners on stovetop the smell of alchohol candle lighters, lit cigarettes, the sound of a fan, going underwater, polo cologne, Rob Zombie's" More Human than Human", trash in trash can w/o lid, pine cones, Allison Krauss "Let Me Touch You for a While" Taking a shower, blue, cigar cutters, electric knives, not being able to see for any reason hearing the words sl*t, b**ch, or wh*re doctors, shots or injections, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sccuddlers Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 I don't know of these are weird or not... *Chewing Tobacco *Bare feet on Cold Linoleum *Things over my nose - feeling or breathing my own breath *being backed up against something hard *falling asleep in a quiet room (I must have noise) *seeing pictures of me at that age *his name, first & last *having my hair tangled *turtlenecks *the sound of zippers *wearing socks when I sleep *sleeping under a light weight sheet instead of a heavy blanket *any pillow that is not a feather pillow *people making jokes about s*x and water beds *people talking about losing their virginity There are more, but that is enough for now. ~Kim, sccuddlers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest mjc4490 Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 - thong underwear - rape scenes in movies - heaving breathing - masturbation - having wet hair, like after a shower - his name, first and last, or separately - locations he used to frequent, like Target or the park - green cars - pine tree car air fresheners - the smell of Axe cologne - energy drinks that he used to have, like SoBe - people who look like him, even remotely so - "real" bras -- I can only wear sport ones now - seeing his parents around town -- this one is the worst!!! That's really all I can handle for now... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hybridshadow Posted June 28, 2009 Share Posted June 28, 2009 Wow, interesting thread! It was interesting reading through people's triggers, to know that my bizarre ones might not be all that bizarre. Mine: -Certain s**ual words -Talk about s** -Hearing that I'm a "good girl", or beautiful -Too much one-on-one attention from men -Being in close quarters with men period -People being too close to me (physically) -Feeling things on my neck (sometimes scarves, some necklaces, turtlenecks, hands, etc) -The smell of aftershave -Swiss Army cologne -The dark (I also have to sleep with a light (or nightlight) on) -Walking by myself at night -People unexpectedly coming up behind me -My hair all being put on one side of my head (I know, weird, and you would think it never happens, and it usually doesn't outside of with -him-, except a few months ago my friend just randomly did it, playing around, and I kind of freaked out) -My bedroom at home (particularly the bedroom set) -S** or r*** scenes in movies/books -Other random scents that I don't even recognize are a trigger until I smell them -His name (either his full name, or other people with his first name) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jlandrith Posted June 29, 2009 Share Posted June 29, 2009 My triggers? Being alone with a woman in a confined space - office with door closed, elevator, stairwell, etc. The word "forceful" - she used it several times during the rape. Female on male rape portrayed as a joke in movies - (Wedding Crashers, 40 Days and 40 Nights, etc.). An older woman flirting with me or paying me a little extra attention. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettylou Posted June 30, 2009 Share Posted June 30, 2009 good thread! i have two types of triggers the direct ones and one that trigger thing about when i was stalked and they lead to thinking and flashbacks. direct ones my bed talking about perious relationships men that don't drink laying on my back people toching my wrists his house (i have to walk pass it, amost every day) police tall men being told what to do being traped goths the name of my road sex seance on tv or films norway a dance routin i had to learn (even waching it makes me feel sick) stalker ones anyone toching my knees or feet people with blonde curly hair puch bikes talking about geology or geography pepole sending me notes or letters buff scarfs bettylou Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aileen Posted June 30, 2009 Share Posted June 30, 2009 The word "f*ck" when used to mean "have sex with". (ie. "I want to f*** you") Though I guess that's not really weird, it's just not a nice word. Here's a weird one I discovered yesterday: Elton John. There's a physical resemblance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moongazer Posted July 5, 2009 Share Posted July 5, 2009 Double mattresses on the floor. Singles are fine, any airbeds are fine, sofa beds are ok too. It's just double mattresses. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BWAYBOSTON Posted July 12, 2009 Share Posted July 12, 2009 I have the normal triggers, but some weird ones too. bubble gum. calling people. someone touching my knees (well someone touching me period but especially my knees) recieving notes receiving gifts when it's not Christmas or my birthday Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nursingstudent101 Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 I have alot of triggers some S =SUVs and 4 wheel drive vehicles. =PK chewing gum, the smell, taste, and sometimes just anyone chewing gum is enough to set me off =Old men, young men, just some men in general =anything to do with the titanic =any talk of sex, whether in person or on tv, movies, magazines etc =anything being around my neck at the moment especially scarves or someone touching my neck or shoulders =being around too many people - but then being alone can be a trigger also =Silence (makes me think about things to much) =plus many others.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonaya Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 (edited) Yesterday i posted some of the things that trigger me, and it was so good for me....so thanks for opening this space: When someone comes into the room and I am not expecting it...getting scared can get me into tears. Accordions. If I play the piano in certain moods I am bound to dissociate Little girls with older man Red Vans the smell of leather tall skinny blond man...like someone said, some specific types of men, very much so older man someone yelling at me someone specially a man being nice to me, in a specific way snow falling which sucks cuz I love it too skinny man with hoodies dark grey shirts ha, interesting, the same that happened yesterday is happening now...i get overwhelmed and i just get blocked...i am feeling a lot but I can't put my finger into anything...and I feel afraid....as if the recognizing and the naming of these things is going to put me in danger of some sort....i am feeling an aching in my heart...and the sensation though that recognizing these things is good for me...mixed feelings. Edited July 14, 2009 by Moonaya Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mountaineer Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 My more strange ones: Dr. Phil (he looks like my abuser, my dad) Listerine smell of semen thunderstorms my fingers being held together Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
troublesohard Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 The smell of certain washing powders 'The Entertainer' Nintendo Wii People touching my head When people rub their fingers on something White t shirts Hairy chests Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anette84 Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 Some of my weirdest and strongest triggers: Having bowel movements. A particular brand of vaseline, I cringe when I see it in store shelves Bananas, cucumbers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dimples Posted July 20, 2009 Share Posted July 20, 2009 -Red mustangs -Bright blue eyes -Tom Green -Santa Monica Beach -The Boys & Girls Club -Blue plaid pajama pants -When my sisters dog barks, especially at night -When the front door opens and I'm home all alone -Showers with no radio on--I don't want to be able to hear anything. I have to dissociate completely or I go bat-sh**. -Adam Corolla -Wilshire Blvd. -Culver City -People named Dave Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
troublesohard Posted July 28, 2009 Share Posted July 28, 2009 Joe Dolce is another one of mine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stealing_wonderland Posted July 28, 2009 Share Posted July 28, 2009 -Wilshire Blvd. My freakin' office is there. The things I've seen going to or coming back from work are so scary some-times, I honestly want to just quit. It doesn't help that I work for a dept. that deals with child abuse and neglect. Ugh. I'm with you on this one, even if for different reasons. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
etiennefayth Posted July 28, 2009 Share Posted July 28, 2009 A lack of body hair on men, in particular public hair, but also underarm, chest and legs. I didn't even realise until my boyfriend went on a shaving frenzy and I freaked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladyshen92 Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 A few of my triggers: Being restrained Hands over my mouth Caravans Young girls Carling Men : Thanks for the chance to speak about this. Shen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ciela65 Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 (edited) - having my wrists held - having my legs stretched in any way - wool blankets - my ears being sensually touched - penetration (i have it mostly under control but theres no telling when i will be triggered by it) - someone giving me oral sex (sometimes) - men with freckles, irish, blue eyes, etc - men wearing tighter pants where you can see a bit of bulge - always triggers me - young girls dressed "trendily" or what i consider too old for them, young girls in bikinis ...etc... im afraid for their safety - sand textured walls (the prickly ones) - movies with any rape scenes - movies where they make jokes about women or talk about having sex with woman - the movie "KIDS" i wouldn't suggest anyone watch it whos on here (sends me pretty badly back) - chauvinism/machismo some weird ones .. but a lot of them are related to my step father also i was raped in college twice and i can't seem to get rid of the things i was raped in. is that normal? like i still have the dress from the formal i went to .. and the underwear from the other time .. they trigger me terribly but for some reason i can't get rid of them. its sick i know - and i don't understand it. Edited August 2, 2009 by ciela65 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
isaley Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 I can't get rid of the clothes I was raped in either! I've given the reaction a lot of thought, but I still don't know the reason... BTW, wonderful thread! Some of my strangest triggers: - the sound of keys in door (don't know why, I can't seem to place it within any of my traumas...) - certain tone of voice (male) on the phone - Jean Paul Gaultier Classique Femme perfume - some aftershaves - hugging my mother, father, brother or sister - songs by Sade (sadly enough, since I really like her music!) - my own BO - some words my mother says, especially a certain sound - my brother when he's drunk And the rather usual ones, it seems: men in general, babies and little girls, people coming too close (public transportation, standing in queues, clubs etc), hands around my neck, hands on my head and any unexpected touch. Wow, writing these down was harder than I thought! Isaley. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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