twisted Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 I didn't realize that I had so many triggers... Male authority figures Making small talk with men People I don't know being "in my space" Repetive sounds Strangers touching me anywhere except to shake my hand (& sometimes even that too) People trying to convince me that something happened when I know it did When I've unintentionally upset someone Being told to "calm down" Back rubs Walking alone in the dark outside Men with long fingernails People whom I don't know or like shortening my name These are the ones that still set me off. There are others that I've managed, for the most part, to overcome or that don't bother me nearly so much anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buglertrack Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 I am scared of the dark, I use a flashlight at night when I turn off the light so that I can see and when I have been having flashbacks I tend to search the room several times before getting in bed. When I am sleeping and my bedroom door is opened (having roommates in college made this one hard to deal with and I couldnt sleep) My hair being pulled or someone coming up behind me and touching me Whispering in my ear Being alone with older men Male authority figures Hearing others stories that are similar to mine (that one is a catch 22 because I want to be connected to people that have experienced the same things but at the same time I do get triggered and have flashbacks) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsme Posted February 10, 2008 Share Posted February 10, 2008 (edited) My first name which I do NOT go by, but of all things when i go to the doctors, sometimes they call me that double trigger bugs, I was in a "dungeon" cellar my first time when I was five and there were bugs.. of course that was better than what came next, but i really freak with bugs can't have my hands behind/bove my head... or strapped down, so my surgeries were very, very triggering and some otherthings I cant think of until it happens and som things I can't mention thanks for asking itsme Edited February 10, 2008 by itsme Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butterfly Faerie Posted February 10, 2008 Share Posted February 10, 2008 Certain words trigger me names touch movies books tv shows forums pictures etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinta Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 (edited) I'm sad to say, sometimes I get triggered by young girls, probably because I envy their innocenceI to look at young girls and wonder if someone is hurting them. Also the usual anyone that looks like the person that hurt me and any sort of violence or raised voices. Edited February 21, 2008 by Kinta Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onedayatatimelady Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 Some triggers for me are the same as what some of you have listed: Being held down or confined Dark places The smell of alcohol and cigarettes on a man's breath Movies or TV shows that show/indicate children being raped/sexually abused **Men with a limp (he had one) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarah86 Posted February 23, 2008 Share Posted February 23, 2008 Sweat Sex Beards Cuddling after sex Overweight men Baklava Being asked to perform oral Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shadow25 Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 Clubbing (all those people around, can't get out) My little sister mentioning r*pe or anything like that (I'm terrified of her being hurt too) Being drunk, I wasn't drunk when it happened, but for some reason it brings back the memories People grabbing my arms People around me discussing r*pe (even if they don't know about me, they just tend to be dismissive of it, which can hurt sometimes) Haha, guess I'm a pretty messed up person! There are probably more triggers, but I can't think of them at the moment Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
troubleinparadise Posted February 24, 2008 Share Posted February 24, 2008 (edited) My weirdest trigger is the Bible. It had absolutely nothing to do with my assaults. I told my T once and she thought it was the weirdest thing ever and couldn't figure out how the trigger worked. My second weirdest trigger is the show Trailer Park Boys. One of them (can't remember which) was making an appearance at the bar I was at the night of the second assault. I didn't like the show before, but now it makes me sick to even hear about it. Others: - being touched by people I don't know or by drunk people - being touched without warning or without my permission - certain songs - beer - smell, taste, etc. - a certain classroom on my university campus - half-lit rooms - Family Guy - being pushed/held down I'm sure there are others, but these are the main ones that I can think of at the moment...... Edited February 27, 2008 by troubleinparadise Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mersey09 Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 Hey i'm new here and this is the first post i've made, seems like an ok place to start. -JOOP! aftershave -my neck being restricted... or exposed, it changes for some reason -guys who have been smoking -the smell of beer -guys talking about sex -large groups of men -trees, lol- that would be my weirdest one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ayanna Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 Earthquakes ... we just had the biggest earthquake in england for nearly 25 years (5.3 on the richter scale) that I felt rather strongly and the emotional shock triggered me because it was the same reaction I had to my assaults. I reckon that's going to be a major trigger if it happens again, thank God we don't get earthquakes big enough to feel very often! Ayanna Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phoenix Posted March 22, 2008 Share Posted March 22, 2008 men describing their 'perfect girl' or whatever people using blankets as capes being told things like ' it didn't mean anything / matter' in almost any situation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tealady Posted March 27, 2008 Share Posted March 27, 2008 smell of alcohol (on someone's breath or the smell of a bar - that smoky/alcohol smell) someone touching my hands (I have finally learned to say "I don't shake hands" and not feel bad when I get that "What????" look from people and tell them its a personal space issue when they ask why if I tell them anything at all) the hand touching also pertains to my children grabbing my hands when they are excited and want my attention - freaks me out & I tend to yell at them which in turn makes me feel bad but I can't control it the smell of certain older men and their hair cream/gel or aftershave - I can't figure out which...maybe its just the old man smell in general anything that is "phallic" shaped - currently the spring flowers are coming out of the ground and they resemble ... well I won't go there but it really scares me bathrooms w/windows that have no curtains - believe it or not, some don't! small confined spaces - elevators and the like sitting with my back to the door in any room many, many in the bedroom that I can't describe here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirstin Posted March 28, 2008 Share Posted March 28, 2008 One I don't understand: guys who leave their socks on when they are having s*x. Really strong trigger, but the strength may be because the only time I'd find that out, is usually already emotionally fraught. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astralvigilante Posted April 7, 2008 Share Posted April 7, 2008 I more dealt with intense harassment, leading to nightmares and some hallucinationy stuff...so I'm not a rape victim but I guess I still have triggers that make me think of my harasser. * Certain songs she likes. * Having my hair touched or caressed, especially if someone sneaks up and does it. * Girls with lower vocal ranges in choir. * Honey blonde hair with gentle curls at the bottom (aka: not the stereotypical stalker I know). * Heavy mascara. * The month of December as a whole. * Going to plays/theater stuff. * People who wear a lot of white. * High heeled leather boots. * Thunderstorms. Weird...yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Undine Posted April 9, 2008 Share Posted April 9, 2008 (edited) ~ Computer code ~ Certain songs, particularly 'Scotty Doesn't Know' and 'Spare Me the Details' ~ Being too close to bonfires ~ People waving lit cigarettes around ~ People making 'flame throwers' using lighters and deodorant ~ People (particularly teenage boys) throwing heavy things around (not balls of paper, but objects) ~ Ambulances ~ Guys with slight British accents ~ People being emotionally manipulative ~ The door to a certain room in my house (don't know why, but I hate it and if the door is open I have to check everywhere in it then close the door) ~ Sleeping with my door open or unlocked ~ People who look like him or certain members of his family ~ Being called useless or ugly ~ Sitting on someone's lap or having them sit on mine ~ Being knocked or tripping into someone, particularly if they look annoyed about it ~ People joking about SI or *r* ~ People walking behind me ~ Rooms painted bright light blue Erk... that's a lot more than I thought there were. Edited April 9, 2008 by Drag0nfly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oobe85 Posted April 9, 2008 Share Posted April 9, 2008 wow...ummm let's see" the smell of newly cut grass hands on the back of my neck people joking about *r* Law and Order: SVU (sometimes, depending on the episode) (love the show most of the time though) high school guys walking around with no shirt on but one thrown over their shoulder Lifetime movies about *r* Baseball diamonds the song Take me out to the ballgame anything to do with a baseball game really wow, i didnt know i had so many. O yea, one more: pocket knives Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xdarkangeljx Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 Hey everyone, I'm new here, and thought I would post a list of my triggers, even though I know most have already been said Someone I don't know standing too close behind me Laying down with nothing under my head Being alone around men. When a man closes a door behind me and locks it. Loud noises Drunk men Any topic on rape/abuse - TV/Film/Jokes etc Being naked - especially laying down and being looked at when i'm naked. Having my hands held unwillingly Being touched at all without my prior consent Enclosed/Dark spaces Being chatted up Someone tying a scarf for me around my neck Crowds Being pinned down or restrained People staring at me People covering my eyes Compliments from men i don't know Oral sex The Adam and Joe Show Angry men Loud men Not being able to see Not being able to breathe The smell of weed Not being covered when I am trying to sleep Sitting in a public space with my back exposed Eye contact with people I don't know D|A Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
japangirlcmw Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 Being in an apartment, at all. Looking out a window on a top floor. Having someone refer to me as 'beautiful', or anything like it. Water. (Drinking water.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onlyidiotsdream Posted April 16, 2008 Share Posted April 16, 2008 Rough physical contact (including horseplay), and being left alone with a man. Not too many, but definitely things that can set me off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
self_blamer Posted April 20, 2008 Share Posted April 20, 2008 SS but I still have some batshit insane Anxiety. Walking in an empty street Lots of noises...like...being in a bar where there are 5-10 different sets of noise coming together Being naked Yeah, they're the main ones... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mfrances Posted April 21, 2008 Share Posted April 21, 2008 economy hotels empty streets -- rainy nights white tank top undershirts tequila rape/abuse on tv, etc flying in to my home town men who need/push for something from me (even if its at work, etc) oral sex bob dylan songs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patricia1 Posted April 21, 2008 Share Posted April 21, 2008 Elevators and bad driving (something about the sharp turns and the anxiety when other people drive badly) Take care, Patricia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guilty79 Posted April 21, 2008 Share Posted April 21, 2008 i written a trigger before on here but just writting what triggered recently. the smell of cigrets and beer the combo of the two . and when haveing sex it getting too ruff and my hands going behind my head. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sia Posted May 2, 2008 Share Posted May 2, 2008 this is a great topic, it's something i've thought about but never gotten to write down. god i'm shaking just writing this my triggers are: red apples, especially the skin rooms with no windows the chicken pox, people having it or even just talking about it therapist couches rape jokes, especially child rape jokes and my symptoms are: shaking nausea/vomiting retreating into myself sucking my thumb scratching myself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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