Kaitlyn Posted June 10, 2005 Share Posted June 10, 2005 (edited) there are so many but I've never sat down before and written them out... These are "triggers" in the sense that they usually make me dissociate... *being restrained or held down in any way *being touched without warning *loud fingersnaps *doctors other than my normal GP *any kind of gyn exam/procedure *breast exams *lying on my back without being covered (I can't sleep without at least a sheet over me) These are more just strong/unbearable reminders *dirty snow/slush *black ice *injections *PJ's with lots of frills/lace *sleeping on the couch *sundresses (like little girls wear) *hearing locks click *streetlights *the word "fiance" (yeah...i know ) I'm sure there are more, but I'm blanking right now... Edited June 10, 2005 by onlyhope Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jamie1984 Posted June 10, 2005 Share Posted June 10, 2005 Anything that has to do with ScoobyDoo. That movie was playing during the rape. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kit-kat Posted June 10, 2005 Share Posted June 10, 2005 (edited) OK HERE WE GO *PUBLIC PLACES SOCIAL GATHERINGS *BIGF CITES TO MANY POEPLE YOU CAN NOT KEEP TABS ON EVERYONE *HAVING MY EYES CLOSED WITH OTHER PEOPLE IN THE ROOM *CERTIAN PERFUMES *CERTIAN MUSIC *DOCUMENTRIES ABOUT MULTIPLE PERSONALITY DISORDERS OR SEX SCENES *BOOKS ABOUT THESE TOPICS *INCLOSED PACES SUCH AS GETTING STUCK IN A ROOM *PEOPLE TUCHING ME *MY FRIEND HAS AND OPSETION WITH LAPDANCING AND SHE LIKES TO DO THINGS ON THE BACK OF MY CHAIR *CHILDREN SCREAMING *BEING SHOUTED AT OR PEOPLE SHOTING AT EACH OTHER *HAVING TO SIT CLOSE TO ANY OTRHER HUMAN BEING *PEOPLE TUCHING ME FROM BEHIND *HAVING TO GET CHANGED IN A PUBLIC CHANGING ROOM *WALKING DOWN THE CORRIDOR OF THE BOARDNG SCHOOL *TRAMPS AND POEPLE WHO LOOK SCALLY *BEING TOUCHED WHEN A SLEEP *DOCTORS EXAMINATIONS Edited June 10, 2005 by kit-kat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimby Posted June 17, 2005 Share Posted June 17, 2005 (edited) Fantastic thread, here goes: hippies long-haired guys guys with red hair (especially long red-haired hippy guys) Kikoman soy sauce Boston - the city, the people, anything about it my former college, sadly july and june loud noises, especially in the morning grateful dead, led zeppelin, some pink floyd music whiskey, especially Jack Daniels and Jim Beam alcohol the smell of alcohol on someone's breath new age stuff crowded places with lots of noise and stimulation, esp. shopping centres leftover pasta with no sauce being hungry being tired leering men of an older generation who still think its ok to ogle females sex (lately) overly judgmental (holier-than-thou) environmentalists, human rights activists, etc. hot weather breathing pollution or other fumes I don't want in my body doing deep breathing exercises my head being against the wall/headboard during sex being touched on my breasts (this is a HUGE, the worst trigger of all) being touched on my inner thighs being turned on orgasm (sometimes) large candles with multiple wicks mornings bedtime tongue kissing in the morning well that's "all" I can think of for now... oh yeah, I forgot to add KNIVES! I have this neurotic thing where I can't bear to have a knife or other sharp object pointing in my direction. Like if there's a knife on the kitchen table or counter, or scissors on a desk, I always have to get up and turn it in a different direction. That's probably the most neurotic bizarre thing about me (apart from hand-washing). Edited June 17, 2005 by Kimby Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer Posted June 17, 2005 Share Posted June 17, 2005 I know I said it in this thread before, but Brad Pitt!! I am so sick of him lately, and I can't stand it. I don't care about his personal life, I don't like his movies, and no, I will NOT GO SEE MR AND MRS SMITH WITH YOU! I will not watch any movie with him in it, and that is hard to explain when every single one of your friends wants you to come see some stupid movie with them. Nothing against him personally, he's possibly a lovely person. Niffer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ducky Posted June 20, 2005 Share Posted June 20, 2005 this is just a few of them: being called hon or sweetie really strong cologne white t-shirts with leather jackets looney tunes boxer shorts disney's the prince of egypt white candles orange couches silver vans large double-doubles from tim horton's (made it very difficult to work there last summer) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annodomini Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 (edited) Triggers.... Smells......Like cigerette smoke...and the smell of beer And the taste of them in your mouth......(so i rarely drink beer....and I rarely smoke) And sometimes a passionate kiss, where his lips are over my face...etc...I feel like I'm drowning and I can't breathe.....(my poor b/f ) ......like being kissed on while laying down....and I feel his weight on my body....some times that's comforting...others....pertrifying. And also .....I think the colour beige....and yellow.....although I've recently started wearing the colour yellow agian. Sudden tempreture changes (i.e..it gets colder) Permanent Markers.....esp in blue Fat fingers....with short nails..belonging to rather large men I think men with really short hair Goose pimples...(how weird is that!) Someone holding my head when we kiss (well sometimes....does it count if its "sometimes"?) Oh...and beards....(my b/f doesn't have one..thankfully ) Weird smells....like when some licks their lips a lot....and their lips/mouth smells like saliva....OMG....Biggest trigger for me...EVER And I guess thats all I can remember now... Edited July 18, 2005 by annodomini Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaitlyn Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 there are so many but I've never sat down before and written them out... These are "triggers" in the sense that they usually make me dissociate... *being restrained or held down in any way *being touched without warning *loud fingersnaps *doctors other than my normal GP *any kind of gyn exam/procedure *breast exams *lying on my back without being covered (I can't sleep without at least a sheet over me) These are more just strong/unbearable reminders *dirty snow/slush *black ice *injections *PJ's with lots of frills/lace *sleeping on the couch *sundresses (like little girls wear) *hearing locks click *streetlights *the word "fiance" (yeah...i know ) 194672[/snapback] Adding a few more... *Having someone come up behind me and grab my shoulder *spiderwebs (the ones that form overnight in the woods) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lil_one Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 -beds...(the abuse happened on a bed, now i can't sleep if i'm on one and i get terrible flashbacks) -a certain scent of cologne... don't know the name of it -people saying things such as "Shelby come over here", "Don't cry" etc. -anyone who looks like him -and of course... actually doing anything somewhat sexual with someone... even just kissing or being alone with a guy ~Shelby Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helz Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 Heya all - even though i am new here - hope you dont mind me posting this... I have the normal range of triggers - certain men , smells, men with the same name as this one particular guy - even to the point where i had a friend since then that used his initials for his name eg bp and when i asked what the intials for - i shuddered at his answer and said that we would keep calling him bp. Others for me are: eyes that change - become hard like ice blue eyes certain stances of men anyone coming up from behind to me (even my kids... ) locked doors anywhere in the house blood - hate the sight of it hate hate hate hate hate hate the sight of it fists - closed or open being called "pet" people touching my hair certain "looks" being led anywhere by the hand someone breathing near my ears hands on my neck the bedroom in my parents house certain other house enclosed spaces too many people in one place oooo - sure there are plenty more maybe some other time..... Helz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elfstar Posted July 4, 2005 Share Posted July 4, 2005 (edited) I have many. I think they've all come from my past abusive relationship. things other people do - anyone tickling me (or anyone else in the same room) - being hugged tigh, especially when I'm leaving - anyone saying "you're mine" - someone calling me angel, virgin or princess... or whore - someone suddenly touching me when I'm not looking - someone holding my wrists - someone telling me I have soft skin - talking about "sexy" clothes - talking about the length of my hair - people shouting on me things I do - being naked or on my underwear when another person's present (even if that person is my mom or my grandma) - keeping my hands up on my head, or on the pillow when I'm in bed - lying on the bed without a shirt on and the most irrational things - drunk men, especially middle aged - the words virgin, innocence, purity, blood, sexy, whore or breasts - music of Enrique Iglesias, especially the song Love To See You Cry (I loved the song Hero but now that too reminds me of my abuser) - Everytime music video by Britney Spears - All About the Money by Meja - Shut Up by Black Eyed Peas - a person playing a dog - porn pictures or movies - elevators - fishsticks - poker - Japanese anime - Matrix Revolutions (although the original Matrix is one of my favourite movies) - computer game Black and White Edited December 3, 2007 by Elfstar Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shalom Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Most of my triggers are pretty average - touch, sex, angry men, being held down a certain way, blue eyes (although I'm getting over that one - actually liked Elijah Wood's Frodo despite the eyes :o ), etc. - but I have a couple that haven't been mentioned, one of which is pretty odd. - purity tests; last date rape he tried to get me to take one - Ado Annie's song "I'm Just a Girl Who Can't Say No" from the musical Oklahoma. Love the musical except for that song. No idea why it triggers me, but it does... Sheryl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annodomini Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Triggers....Smells......Like cigerette smoke...and the smell of beer And the taste of them in your mouth......(so i rarely drink beer....and I rarely smoke) And sometimes a passionate kiss, where his lips are over my face...etc...I feel like I'm drowning and I can't breathe.....(my poor b/f ) ......like being kissed on while laying down....and I feel his weight on my body....some times that's comforting...others....pertrifying. And also .....I think the colour beige....and yellow.....although I've recently started wearing the colour yellow agian. Sudden tempreture changes (i.e..it gets colder) Permanent Markers.....esp in blue Fat fingers....with short nails..belonging to rather large men I think men with really short hair Goose pimples...(how weird is that!) Someone holding my head when we kiss (well sometimes....does it count if its "sometimes"?) Oh...and beards....(my b/f doesn't have one..thankfully ) Weird smells....like when some licks their lips a lot....and their lips/mouth smells like saliva....OMG....Biggest trigger for me...EVER And I guess thats all I can remember now... 198707[/snapback] Ohh...here's another gross one....I once heard a man j*rk off....and when he was ejaculating ....he made the grossest...nastiest gutural sound ever.....i got so sick.....i went cold all over....and i felt faint....he was so disgustingly repulsive...... ........so I guess "groaning, deep nasty male sounds moaning......even now when i remember that....i get chills...and feel sick to my stomach...even now....i can taste bile in my mouth...and I can feel my stomach contracting.......ewwwwwwwww Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frances Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 I have a few triggers that could be considered odd -long hallways -heavy footsteps -open doors (if the room they lead into is dark) -closed doors (sometimes) -doors without locks -seeing a doorknob turn -people knocking on my bedroom door -hearing someone come home -people dressed in all white -catholicism in general (no offense to anyone) -extremely nice/polite/well mannered people -a phone ringing at odd hours -hearing grasshoppers outside at night - seeing older adults with young children (even in a completely innocent way) - any kind of thudding sound (this is a huge trigger for me) - flourescent lighting (the kind that have a slight bluish tint) yeah, I'm weird LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whitney Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Some others I've recently discovered... Madras comforters Bright sunlight filtering through trees innertubes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shalom Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Few more - blinking holiday lights, strung randomly in a big window. - a certain record album cover - don't even know the name of it. Or something laid out the way it is (head shot of two ladies). - Chevy Chase, Martin Short, Steve Martin movie Three Amigos. The actors sometimes too, but fortunately not very often, 'cause I like their other stuff. - TV show Connections; I'm currently fighting that one, because hubby wants to show it to the kids. He's showing different seasons from the one that sets me off the worst, but it's still the same narrator... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crissibear23 Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 Some triggers: Watching the Hallmark channel to fall asleep Rachael Ray Taking a shower...only sometimes though...haven't figured it out yet Waking up to somebody walking in to my bedroom Being told "I love you" during sex Anything to do with moving...packing, boxes, etc. Some episodes of the Sopranos Text messages on my cell phone If my son wakes up in the middle of the night crying Hearing somebody shout my name Doors without locks Any guy who looks vaguely similar Any time I hear the same name When someone mispronounces my last name the way he did When someone asks me where the party is at When anyone plays with my hair Corona Rum and Coke Guys who chew tobacco Having a colposcopy People moving around in the house when I'm trying to go to sleep wow...i could keep listing, but it's 3:05 AM and I have to go to bed...this probably wasn't the best thing to do right before bed...oops Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
learning kate Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 oh lets see. Like Ashley-Michelle said ....being touched when I'm sleeping....that's big (my husband just doesn't seem to geth that) anyone touching my head or face doors....(Took the one off my bedroom) locks certain music certain smells trying to pray during sex......that's a huge one closing my eyes during sex gyn visits .............................haven't been in years sheesh! I better stop. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest february Posted July 28, 2005 Share Posted July 28, 2005 dog collars sometimes when i'm in a very bad place mentally, seeing my puppies walk in the room a certain song a male name the movie's 'dead man walking' and 'monster' cottages, and the thought of docks old wells yelling birthdays Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lemonadetwist Posted August 11, 2005 Share Posted August 11, 2005 -unnecessary displays of nakedness -The Black Crows -one of my co-workers when he gets too close to me -the same co-worker when he comes over to my desk when no one is around -the same co-worker when he touches me – putting his hand on my shoulder or touching the top of my head -being told I’m pretty, cute or anything of that nature -being told someone has thought of me in “that way” -being looked at in “that way” -sex scenes on TV or in movies -any rape or near rape scenes in movies -knowing I’ve been touched while I was sleeping or while the other person thought I was sleeping -the scene in the movie “Hostage” where the girl is tied to the bed -someone talking dirty to me -men who act aggressively perverted, even if they are joking -my x-husband getting too close to me -people telling me to talk because they like the sound of my voice -being stared at -being complimented on how I look -being called a whore or a slut -hearing the word rape -talk about sex and sex toys (especially people talking very openly about it) -being stereotyped because of the music I listen to and having tattoos Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SmokeWriter2014TS Posted August 11, 2005 Share Posted August 11, 2005 (edited) I know I have a long list; a few that stand out: ESPN Sportscenter college dorms long institutional corridors public restrooms my place of employment AOL (using it, seeing the logo, someone mentioning it in conversation) guns violent scenes in movies and on tv (probably video games, too, but I don't play them) being confined, restricted, controlled physically or otherwise being called sweetie, sugar, love, baby, etc... hearing my name by anyone other than a friend/relative anyone walking up behind me, especially males the noise my refrigerator makes when there's no other noise lawnmower motors smell of gin a certain model wooden dining chair talk on news of bombs, terrorism, hostages, beheadings, etc shopping centers and malls being in a crowded loud place touched by strangers, even by accident-like at malls, concerts, etc ice storms/sleet anyone grabbing my ankles being tickled garden hoses brown/tan bed linens any unfamiliar man's voice getting close to me when I'm in a confined space Yeah, there are more but that's enough for now. Edited November 15, 2005 by mzbookwrm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cowgirljen211 Posted August 13, 2005 Share Posted August 13, 2005 good idea * beer breath * movie's and tv show's that talk about rape * someone coming up behind me and touching me * Old men lookin at me -jen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted November 9, 2005 Share Posted November 9, 2005 *Baby oil *Babyoil & rubbing alcohol mixed together *older men *sound of mens electric shaver *certain aftershave *zest soap *Seeing soap on someones face *smell of any beer on a mans breath *laying on my stomach *seeing anyone else lay on their stomach (especially kids) - definate No no ! *tickling or tickle fights- definate no no ! *any man even glancing my way (except hubby) *sexual shows *show that have sexual assault *wearing underwear *anything touching down there (hence the underwear) *taking a bath (hence water touching down there) *showers, especially in basements (this makes it very triggering to try to take a bath or shower.. but I do) *cocky/arrogant men *seeing men give kids affection or holding their hands *the crook in my arms (where they take blood) I was held down right there. *anyone touching my butt (a playful pinch, smack, soft touch) NO ! *after sex drippage)- makes me ill *old fashion shaver/razors (the kind you had to twist it to open the head & then put in a new razor). *nasty old men *harmonicas *pocketwatches *pocket knives *anything to do with trains (real trains) *someone walking in when I am using the bathroom *sounds of footsteps coming to my bedroom when I am in bed already *older mens hands (I can tell which ones are safe & which aren't) *any man of any age that seems to just be hangin around an area that young teens or young kids are at. * peppermint schnops (sp) *old phonographs & the tubular things that was played on them (music or old tales). *westerns *oltime black lunchboxes *men that are angry *seeing cases of beer in the basement *pooltables *old/antique tools *the smell of old oil/grease in a garage/car shop *the smell of drugs on a man *being made to feel guilty if i don't want sex *hearing a knife being sharpened with the old long thing that they pull the knife up & down it. *hearing a knife used to cut beer cans open *beer cans that have been cut open *Raw fish before they are cleaned *a man changning a childs diaper (if I don't know them) *a man going into a childs room to check on them during their sleep. *older men with their shirts off (especially with big, hairy, nipples *any man that puts a woman down or ""puts her in her place"". *Frog gigging *Snapping turtles *Fish hooks *Campers *suspositiries *enemas *douches thats most of them except....... Possible *T* >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>MAY TRIGGER BELOW<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< *semen, can't stand to see it, smell it, keep it away from me ! I didn't used to be that way... that has gotten worse the last 10 years. sorry so long Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest zasspa Posted November 13, 2005 Share Posted November 13, 2005 (edited) cant stand having anyone look at me while im naked throwing up (doing it seeing it hearing about it - anything to do with it sets me off in meltdown mode) the smell of pot any situation in which people are drunk (yes that makes life hard sometimes) carlton (football club) boxer shorts chocolate coated strawberries (can handle chocolate and strawberries separately tho) flying the Melbourne Cup (dont ask!!!) any sex scene at all on tv any talk of sex especially by guys being touched especially when not expecting it or its a slap on the arse or something being called a specific nickname (thankfully hasnt happened in ages) being alone with guys im not 110% comfortable with being alone in a public place having a bath with a guy any comment that is made by a guy that in my mind implies that he thinks men are better than women seeing my friends holding hands or kissing their partners (i dont know why? its not like the kisses are ever anything more than pecks???) girl on top sex (more so than others for some reason) Edited November 13, 2005 by zasspa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wendygyrl Posted November 13, 2005 Share Posted November 13, 2005 spiders....that's probably my weirdest..and any kind of light touches on my skin.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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