Abbi Posted April 19, 2011 Share Posted April 19, 2011 hilary, I came by and glanced at this thread and read your comments. I literally gasped and got chills, because I too have an extremely hard time with the regular carmex smell! I have a hard time with bright lights (live in a low-light cave feeling in my apt.) Horns honked at me Any sort of meat smell (I'm vegetarian although I don't think that's completely why) Hearing people fight (in real life) ANY candy or "fun" things that are out for this season, as well as the name of the holiday (highly triggering) Little kids wrapping their arms around my leg (as in them giving a hug) That's all I can think of at the moment. ~Abbi~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TekamahAkina Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 Men with long hair....he had long hair. And I remember feeling it all over my face while he was getting what he wanted. It smelled bad, I don't think he washed it as much as he should've, and it was greasy. I hate long hair, especially men of ethnicity (hispanic, american indian, etc) Dark complected men with long hair is a huge trigger. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitkate88 Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 Men wearing glasses Men with dark short hair and glasses Sometimes the smell of condoms Awful techno music Ottawa (where he moved to after he left college) Touching my neck Camera flashes Fairly normal stuff I guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappinessOnTheInside Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 (edited) Scope mouthwash and vasoline. Oh and being held down or restrained. I cannot take it, even if it is in a playful manor I just cannot deal with it. Edited April 25, 2011 by HappinessOnTheInside Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hyperballad13 Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 laying on my back.... even if i turn over... i have certain songs that are very popular at th moment as well.. and this may sound ridicuous but chicken nuggets...they now make me feel sick... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amber85 Posted April 27, 2011 Share Posted April 27, 2011 Young kids with an older man- especially little girls. I always wonder if they are safe, if they are being hurt by him, if he thinks about it. I want to run over and snatch her up and ask her if she is okay. I've gotten to where I just have to force myself to not look. It makes me want to cry, and it's hard to not stare. And when anyone in my life leaves for extending periods of time. And in my romantic relationship now any time he isn't around. Maybe cause I remember begging my mom not to go out all weekend, just one night instead of two. I'd sit and cry and run after her, and she would always turn and leave. And I was left with him. So, I have this thing letting people go, afraid to be alone, afraid something will happen to me and no one will be there to stop it- even if I am all by myself with no one around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyandMusic Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 A specific street by where I live. I have avoid, if I don't, I get panicky, and can't breather. It always gets to me, because thats where it all started. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunflowermomma3 Posted May 12, 2011 Share Posted May 12, 2011 being in a room w/o lights on (except at bedtime then I like it dark) or natural light coming in Contact from my mom Genessee beer (other beer doesn't) mom always drank it Ironing clothes (always ironed mom's for her to go out) Doublemint gum cigarette smoke hugging people other than spouse, my kids and my nephew kissing on the lips except by hubby the "Mommy Dearest" movie about Joan Crawford snakes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lucy Posted May 14, 2011 Share Posted May 14, 2011 I have a couple that I can write - Squeaky trolley wheels The Spice Girls - Say You'll be There (Music Video) Horses Lucy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vacfmi Posted May 14, 2011 Share Posted May 14, 2011 Preparing Biscotti (you have to roll the dough into a "log", roughly the diameter of a p____. the scent of Old Spice combined with cigarettes and a stong male scent Alcohol on a man's breath Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TekamahAkina Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 (edited) Let's see, another one that recently popped up is that memorylane.com commercial that comes on in the states. I stupidly went looking for an ex crush's father in a yearbook on that site and found him, but also found the father of my friend, the one and only. It was something like a guttaral reaction of sickness, sadness, shame, terror, etc. Now i hear that song I think of those pics of him in high school and I hate it. I hate that i found him there i hate that he's literally haunting me from the grave. So now thats a huge and new major trigger, and I know why but i don't know how to move past this trigger. Even piano music on other commercials are making me freeze, and I don't know why i'm letting this issuse have such a tremendous hold on me. Edited May 19, 2011 by TekamahAkina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoenixfire Posted May 19, 2011 Share Posted May 19, 2011 Fruity flavoured gum. When people get upset or frustrated with me or someone around me. Cat collar bells. Stairs. For a long time, ankhs (it's an Egyptian hieroglyph) were super triggery and I couldn't wear mine. Rings. I couldn't see asterisks for a really really long time without triggering. Text tones and vibrations. I have to have mine set to a very particular setting or I lose it. Certain books and authors. Laying on my back. Most Hip hop music. Navy Pea coats. And whatever his cologne was (I don't remember what is was, but it's apparently really popular with how many people wear it). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keypadangel Posted May 21, 2011 Share Posted May 21, 2011 my weird triggers: candles, bubbles, starbucks keypadangel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lynn4745 Posted May 21, 2011 Share Posted May 21, 2011 Between 1-2 in the afternoon, if I'm not busying myself, triggers intense sadness Yellow lighting (that's the color the bathroom was) Being manhandled firmly My brothers Compliments Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinkshell Posted May 24, 2011 Share Posted May 24, 2011 Triggers are what I've been dealing with a lot lately; very scary to me. I am shaking just thinking about them. There are several commercials on TV that make me really sick. They produce a horrible physical sensation in my body. Anything involving different textures (I still haven't figured this one out) I saw a commercial for a cream that had spikes coming out of a chair. It was on everyday when I watched my soap opera. I can't get it out of my mind. Any texture that is gritty or strange. Like a cactus or something. Smells of different types. like medicinal ones. Listening to people eat or drink (this makes me feel bad because I love eating and being with my husband) Watching people chew food baths loose hair (not my own) Some but not all body lotion...I finally found one that doesn't trigger me which is really strange. okay, that's enough. I'm glad to write these out; but that was really hard. How do any of you deal with triggers? Is there a way to stop them? I've tried meditation, etc. Nothing works! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsmooth1978 Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 closed doors deep voices-odd one because my boyfriend has a deep voice-he doesn't bother me beards scratchy sheets touched in my sleep authority any man speaking to my little girls or bending to their level-I can control this one well for about 5 minutes then I play off and move them along old spice cologne/deodorant touching-unexpected hugging/touching/kissing-i have learned to be somewhat ok with women(friends) on this one but I can not hug without the racing heart or dry mouth coming into play-i hide things very well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seanna Posted May 27, 2011 Share Posted May 27, 2011 The smell of black licorice Color country Blue Music Band Prodigy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starrjulia Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Weird triggers. Let's see *mouth's being full. Lots of gum or chewing tobacco. *cable service vans *hearing sorry over and over. Overused. Not genuine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lyza Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 (edited) I HATE petrolium Jelly and Vasoline. Don't care for hot gum. Wrestling and Boxing suck. The airport by my house. My house. Im not good at being alone. lol Normal triggers like movie scenes, etc. The word pornography and other bad words like 'penetrate' which my coach uses a lot in basketball. Cherry Chapstick. And other things Edited June 15, 2011 by Lyza Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinkshell Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 (edited) I wanted to share a recent trigger that embarrasses me. It makes me feel so badly because I was taught to think of all races as the same. So i am apologizing now because I don't want to offend anyone. My dentist that I've had for years is retiring and has been replaced by a young asian man. My abuser was asian and when I saw my new dentist I hated him on the spot! I found all of these things wrong with him. My mom paid for my dental work in advance and I don't know if I can go back to him. He said some (in my opinion) condescending things and I'm not sure if they were just my imagination. I'm so afraid to go back and I'm not sure I can get my money back. I feel like a little kid today. Edited June 16, 2011 by pinkshell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faithsdaisy4_21 Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 (edited) I read through a bunch of responses the other day. I appreciate the honest of the people on this forum Anyway, I went home that night and wrote a whole list of triggers. I had no idea how many I had. So... here is my list ~ the movie The Neverending Story ~ the TV sitcom That '70's Show ~ the movie Cool Hand Luke ~ dirty talk ~ anything that has to do with wrestling ~ fleece sweaters ~ my stomach being touched ~ the song The Dance ~ his name ~ being held down ~ single wide trailers ~ beds with no sheets on them ~ people coming up behind without making any noise or showing any indication that they are there ~ men wearing jeans that are too long ~ being touched in a sexual way with my clothes still on ~ feeling trapped ~ men I don't know that do so much as glance at me ~ shaved heads ~ some of my old friends ~ not having a blanket over me when I am lying down or having sex ~ hearing anyone say the word "redwings" ~ dirty whit tennis shoes ~ pictures on a wall with no frames around them ~ ice cream sundaes at Denny's ~ people smelling dirty. Not like BO, but like their clothes have been worn to many times without being washed. ~ the dentist. ~ going to the doctor alone. I truly do not remember the last time I went to a doctors appointment without my husband. Edited June 24, 2011 by faithsdaisy4_21 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beckilucy Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 hi - i am having some nightmares right now - i must be moving a lot in my sleep as i wake up and my duvet is on the floor and then i worry all day that someone has been in my room and raped me but i think that is more to do with what my father used to do. :-( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaene Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 The smell of freshly churned soil. (makes shopping for gardening supplies my own little hell) The metalic scent of blood. The NYU logo. Anything that makes me feel trapped or cornered. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jdam Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Anyone that tries to pressure me into doing something...feeling trapped also. Body odor which I guess isn't weird but it'll come out of thin air which freaks me out. Unlocked doors. The closet door being open...I have no clue why... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sionnach Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 this is a fantastic thread. I've never tried to put my triggers in a list form... and i had no idea that i had SO may things that just ruin...if not my day... at least a good portion of it. there seems to be triggers of varying degrees as well... which is only logical i suppose the biggest triggers i have yet to be able to master are: Being in the passenger seat of a car (unless it's being driven by one of only 2 people) Having my seat belt on used to be a HUGE trigger, but if one of the same 2 people is driving, then I'm usually OK) Anything right against my throat... even scarves and necklaces. Shirts with close necklines make me all kinds of uncomfortable. Having my hair pulled… I still have to have my hair cut short for this reason Being startled awake... this usually scares me to tears. Movies/TV/Magazines/Books/etc that talk about/ deal with/ cover anything to do with r_pe, and A_sault in a nonchalant, uncaring manner, or as “entertainment” People who Joke about r_pe and s_xual a_sault Parties/Social Gatherings/Crowds of any kind... sometimes i can't even get through the grocery store by myself Raised Voices... i cringe and have to fight the urge to hide whenever someone yells, even if it's not directed at me Anger.. if someone's mad (even if it's just a normal, healthy kind of anger) i usually have to leave the room to stop a panic attack Being on my stomach if someone else is near by... there's only one exception to this. Being called dear, or darling.. it was one of my Ex’s favorite ways of being condescending, so when I hear it I automatically think I’ve done something wrong. The forests, creeks, really any running water… sadly these are instant panic for me. Sitting with my back to the door or most of the room... unless one of 2 people is sitting in a way they “can watch my back” People standing behind me, especially men. Being left alone in a crowded place… this goes back to the crowds, but it’s also a total fear of being abandoned as well as the press of people around me. Certain smells, like dirt, or other earthy smells (which makes me extremely sad since I love to garden) but also Alcohol, cigarettes/cigars, and cat litter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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