AngelinaEastwood Posted February 7, 2010 Share Posted February 7, 2010 My triggers are: - not being in the dominant position for any sex acts - silence as a response after I open up to someone - french kissing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bribri Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 My triggers are: -My late wife's BFF -Popcorn ceilings -Bambi -coconut smell -runny eggs -the word 'brother' -shamwows and the shamwow guy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Becstar Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 the smell of cigarette smoke loud breathing a certain brightness of the room in the evening drizzley weather physical signs of strenth like muscles. art work that are sort of empty like the more modern stuff where they have made a black circle wit a red stripe in the middle of white blankness. i dont know why that freaks me but it does. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
julester Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 the smell of alcohol on a man's breath my old bedroom (where most of the abuse happened) movies or shows about abuse little girls hugging and happy with their dads some other smells I can't describe being touched by a man...of any age Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lighthouse Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 the smell of fresh cut grass the smell of cigars sometimes the smell of body odor... anybody else have lots of... smell... triggers??? Umm, i do. The smell of vomit, nail varnish remover, body odour, a joint, chlorine (no idea why i have that one) and occasionally smelly shoes/feet Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
littlelion Posted February 21, 2010 Share Posted February 21, 2010 the smell of curry school yards school shelters people making noise when they eat being toched my sisters friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumblebee_hope Posted April 2, 2010 Share Posted April 2, 2010 The sound of blinds closing Locked doors Science classrooms Bunsen burners Those light-sensitive glasses that change color People touching me People coming up behind me Having my hair touched Wooden stalls Sugar paper Marker pens His name The school he taught at Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blink182grly Posted April 6, 2010 Share Posted April 6, 2010 hmm, a few of mine are: someone touching my neck, wrist, or shoulders. someone touching me from behind. the smell of sweat and dirt. any man between 25-45 with brown hair. people that are too nice/overly friendly. anyone calling me sweetie or baby. compliments on physical appearance. (these usually make me gag.) guys that have big egos. being out at night and passing a man. sunsets. and the weirdest is probably golden retrievers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amelia Posted April 6, 2010 Share Posted April 6, 2010 Door locks, mens hands, the colour black, anyone saying that I look nice, wearing skirts / heels / jewellery, the beach, physical contact, things round my neck, & the weirdest one is a noise I sometimes get in my ears (a kind of buzzing) it still terrifies me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
becky1287 Posted April 7, 2010 Share Posted April 7, 2010 some of mine r: billboards for the GA aquarium shark exhibit (Which we visited) the world of coke(we also visited) the country of Morocco (im sure its a great place but he was from there) men with soft voices guys touching my neck lenox square how to train ur dragon (we saw this together) phipps plaza the W hotel in buckhead absinthe the GA aquarium alcohol i was a victim of date r*pe, so that's why sum of mine seem kind of weird, but they really r triggers for me and if i see them or they happen to me i freak out or just shut down:/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hinata Posted April 11, 2010 Share Posted April 11, 2010 The scent of vanilla is a big one of mine. Not sure how common that one is =/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeverlyn Posted April 14, 2010 Share Posted April 14, 2010 some of mine: being in crowded areas (like clubs and bars) anything/anyone middle eastern especially Iranian some types of music Massari (singer) being hugged if I did not initiate it(by anyone other than my boyfriend) being inside apartment buildings the word rape, rape jokes, etc wearing shorts, skirts or dresses seeing girls who dress too revealingly baseball caps smell of middle eastern type food esp. shawarmas russia seeing clothes that i was abused in feeling sticky looking men in the eyes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chances_unknown Posted April 19, 2010 Share Posted April 19, 2010 Mine are similar to many already posted... - my hands being above my head - my wrists being grabbed - rape talk and scenes in movies - using the word rape out of context - forests/woods (trying to reclaim this!) and - receiving oral - being sober while my boyfriend has been drinking and wants to have sex (never forcibly! but it triggers past memories) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sukie Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 Some of mine are: ~Foot massages, or even just people touching my feet/legs ~Horses ~Fruit bats ~a certain style of single bed.. ~Apple turnover pastries older style landrovers ~Red cars (this is a big one for me, i don't think i could own a red car now..) ~a nickname that alot of people still call me ~swimming in creeks ~the dark ~Hearing people moving around after i have gone to bed and it is dark.. ~people (especially men) touching my face or head, especially if they try to hold my head still after i try to move away - like at the doctor or dentist ~ Motorbikes and people wearing motor bike gear ~older, balding men in general ~r*pe jokes ~my abusers name, even if its referring to a completely different person I'm pretty sure there are lots more, i might add some more later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silly Posted May 4, 2010 Share Posted May 4, 2010 hmmm...I can think of a few to start... Kiss - God of Thunder (song), that triggers the hell out of me Star Wars - A favorite, but a nasty trigger Smell of dried cut grass Juicy Fruit Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Black_rose Posted May 4, 2010 Share Posted May 4, 2010 Interesting... It really got me thinking about some weird triggers of mine. This is what I came up with: - People smoking pot - The scent of a guy sweating - The scent of deoderant for men - Any dominant man - Tall men with long hair - People doing things I didn't see coming - People making (sudden) loud noises - The town were my parents live, especially a certain bar - Old friends - The whole metal-scene really - People making jokes about certain sex acts - People talking about certain sex acts in general (like a guy I know, he works at a sex shop, and he has all kinds of stories...those stories often trigger me) - People calling certain women sluts Hmm...I have more triggers, but those are kind of 'regular' I think. But...when I read through this list, I guess most of the triggers aren't REALLY weird... but well...this is what I came up with . xxx Black_rose Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flyby Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 not so weird, but: lying on my back people coming up behind me anyone touching my lower back stomach aches/cramps the dark when people twitch in their sleep (because i do that when i'm having nightmares about it) rape jokes violent scenes in movie/tv/books, even if it isn't rape/abuse sex scenes in movies/tv sometimes even the thought of sex loud noises anything touching the front of my neck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crocus Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 I've just begun my journey to healing about 2 months ago. Since my abuser/rapist has not been a part of my life for nearly 20 years, to me all the triggers seem weird. But, I've decided to take the next step in healing by joining Pandora's. I saw this thread and thought it might do me good to join in. So, here goes: rape/abuse/stalking scenes in any media hearing reports about rape/assault on the news even discussing the possibility of restraints anything covering my face or around my neck wearing anything deemed to be sexy or attractive (more recently this has been the case) Being called "piggy" or any other derogatory name being held against my will seeing my 19 yr old son's face hairy men men with bad teeth men who like to preen in front of the mirror Star Trek (anything to do with it) Superman (we were watching this the night we first had sex) things being thrown or tossed my way (My dad tossed a fork on the table in front of me on Mother's Day and I had a terrible flashback, felt sick to my stomach, could hardly bear to look at let alone pick up and use the fork) I'm sure there are plenty more, but have never really thought of them. Like I said, I've not even acknowledged or admitted to the abuse and rapes until about 2 months ago. Thank you for being here and willing to share, ladies! Crocus I have a voice and I have a choice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hinata Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 the dark.. if it's too dark I get too scared to even move and I have a panic attack sick or hurt animals Bologna I'm sad to say seeing other fathers/step-fathers and daughters together does it too.. Arguing and yelling Certain songs and radio stations Short beards on older males The door to my bedroom being open or unlocked at night Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scherzo Posted May 24, 2010 Share Posted May 24, 2010 Whoa, I'm not the only one with really bizarre triggers...? Lessee... -Hugging, especially from behind or if I didn't know it was coming -Men taller than me -Red hair -Looking people in the eyes -YELLOW BICYCLES (??? Guy rode a yellow mountain-bike but I'm afraid of EVERY yellow bike, including motorbikes) -The sound of kissing (ewwwww) -Square glasses -Sun dresses -The word 'Valentine' gives me problems, which is really inconvenient sometimes -Being alone in front of school lockers -Touching people -The feeling of having anything wet or light (like paper, feathers, soap) on my left shoulder or my legs -Being alone on the subway -Sleeping on my face (sometimes this happens, I just wake up and I've rolled around in my sleep...) Worst one: -People's fingers. Seeing people's fingers. Looking at people's fingers. Seeing fingers doing stuff. Fingers. I'm a violinist. o_O Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cabotandthefish Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 Odd triggers... hmm... -the obvious stuff -anything touching my abdomen(the most severe one, even brushing against the countertop while making dinner brought vivid flashbacks) -Quantum Leap(used to be one of favorite shows, but it was playing on a near-by tv during an attempted rape) -open doors Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
serena Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 (edited) Walls and corners The first clue my husband, then boyfriend, had. I was standing in a hallway at the college when a class let out. The resulting flood of students pushed me into a corner and he was standing in front of me, I flipped out. Oklahoma - the state TWO SVU episodes, the only ones that ever did. When the CO attempted to rape Olivia undercover in the prison and when she is in the rape counselors office before she joins the group saying she feels like she doesn't deserve to be here. Sometimes I don't even know what triggered me. Edited June 25, 2010 by serena Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goddess Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 Listerine and certain cologne or perfume smells are some of my weirdest ones. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bmeads18 Posted July 4, 2010 Share Posted July 4, 2010 some of my triggers- that i guess are weird - cannot be held by my wrist- even playing around - can't watch " freedom writer's" - being called beautiful by certain men - walking anywhere alone - laying on a couch at night- (during the day perfectly fine) - whispering in my ear - some large black men - being in my house alone - watching some crime shows like svu- csi- (used to love them) - silence at night- need music or some type of noise - wood creeking - being grabbed - talking about my mawmaw house - the way some guys hug me wow- that's a lot- umm yeah well that's my list- and the triggers don't freak me out like i can function but they cause me to have to focus on some other thought while the moment passes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2ndchance Posted July 7, 2010 Share Posted July 7, 2010 (edited) I Have A Feeling-Black Eyed Peas Black F-350 crew cab long box pick-ups Open windows at night alcohol my old car hugs from anyone my hometown homemade mac and cheese (meal my mom made right after I told her) Cologne Being grabbed by the wrist My mom dirty dancing at all Edited July 7, 2010 by 2ndchance Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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