WhereIsTheLove Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 Yellow pick up trucks. Farming hats. Chewing tabacco. And others. those are just my weirdest.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PartlyCloudy Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 Wow, I can't believe I haven't seen this thread since I just posted about this very subject last week. I have two odd ones and one that's probably typical. I dissociate for all three. 1. ATV/dirtbike/go-cart noise in front of or near my house. I'm going out a little just typing the names of those items. 2. Discussing above. 3. Extreme tension or argument between loved ones. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
by.the.ocean Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 Loads which change but some that stay the same and always have done: certain types of tall wooden fences tree roots that are just sticking out of the ground 'back porch' steps - the kind that are just planks of wood where you can see thru to underneath the porch skate shoes worn with socks pulled up low bushes/trees near fences tyre swings greasy hair in an undercut (thankfully not in fashion anymore!) scenes of r*pe or sexual violence in movies / TV shouting & anger in general ... I could go on! ocean Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ayanna Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 daisies in grass reminds me of when my childhood sweetheart blamed ME for the fact that his parents sexually abused us both, pushed me over on his lawn, and said he didn't love me any more ankle pain any twisting of my ankles seeing bandaged ankles one of my CSA incidents happened when I had a sprained ankle... I know the injury wasn't related to the abuse (namely because they wouldn't have stopped r@ping me to put a bandage on my ankle), but the movement still hurt so that's a trigger Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gypsy2 Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 older men touching me or getting too close. anyone, unless it's a current significant other getting too close or touching me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moonshine Posted November 6, 2009 Share Posted November 6, 2009 For some reason, those older coke bottles - the curvy glass ones - are super triggering to me. I didn't realize this until I started working at a restaurant that uses them to put sauce in, and I have to refill them every night. It's always very triggering and makes me uncomfortable/uneasy. I don't know why, and I am thinking probably I don't want to know why. I'm okay with just knowing they trigger me, and avoiding them when possible. Some other odd ones would be soap operas, Dial soap, kids purple pants, barney(lol. This makes me laugh because people always talk about being afraid of barney, and I actually am), a lot of puzzles. I have more but I have to go for a bit. I'll come back to this later probably.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hippiegirl Posted November 8, 2009 Share Posted November 8, 2009 Any man who is great looking, long hair, canadian accents, blue jeans, blue eyes, can not look at GQ mag, or any models,if i see a good looking man i never give them the time of day, or even speak to them, no eye contact for sure, they are all arrogant power assertive rapists in my eyes. Can not listen to Micheal Jacksons "BILLIE JEAN" he said that was his favorite MJ song!! i wonder why??? he probably got a lot of women pregnant and dumped them. Does anyone who the laws in London, Ontario, like child support etc? when i get panic attacks lately my back and arms feel all itchy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hinata Posted November 8, 2009 Share Posted November 8, 2009 If anyone, mostly men, raises their hand in my line of vision [i.e. out of the corner of my eye] within a certain range, about 3 feet or less, I flinch.. very noticeably.. and I can't prevent myself from doing it.. I can be perfectly fine, happy, calm, whatever and then someone puts their hand anywhere near my face and I freak out physically.. Is there anyway to stop it?.. I feel awful when I get that confused look from them, sometimes they even laugh and joke like "What did you think I was going to hit you?" and I feel really bad... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astralvigilante Posted November 23, 2009 Share Posted November 23, 2009 1.) Sex being talked about in an ignorant way. 2.) People referring to sex as "fun," or talking about it like something that can or should be taken lightly. 3.) Anyone talking about blow jobs AT ALL (this wasn't a part of my abuse but it comes from a long string of harassment). 4.) Angels. 5.) People saying the word "benefit." 6.) People saying "that's fair." 7.) Anything that suggests sex is something anyone would ever enjoy. 8.) Yelling. 9.) Any mention of/video of/occurrence of a woman face-straddling someone, especially if the person on bottom is giving her oral sex. This really seriously bothers me. Pretty much I can't handle sexuality at all and yet I'm constantly thinking about it in very roundabout ways. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xlilcasper Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 Anyone touching my face around my lower lips or tickling the side of my neck. Anyone touching my ears. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bklynny Posted December 20, 2009 Share Posted December 20, 2009 It helped to read everyone's posts. Here are some of my triggers: -Sex on TV or discussions about sex -when my roommate has guys over -the smell of pot -being yelled at or criticized at work Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeze Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 Hinata, I do the same thing. Or if a male raises his voice at me, even jokingly, i cringe. Or if a male moves one of their hands in a quick, direct matter around me. Automatic cringe. It gets so awkward because I have a lot of male friends and they always look at me all offended and are like "did you think I was going to hurt you?" all baffled and upset. Also, when a sexual partner looks me in the eye during any sexual contact. My ex used to force me to give him oral and then force me to look him in the eye while I was doing it. so I really can't stand eye contact during sexual moments. It causes me to feel so degraded and I just get overwhelmed with fear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hinata Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 Jeze, I know what you mean... it's just so hard It's not something I can stop myself from doing because it's an unconscious reaction.. Some of my friends are afraid to hug me because they think I'm too sensitive to touch.. While I'm glad on multiple levels that they are being so careful with me.. sometimes I just want them to treat me like a regular person.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandii Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 (edited) Anyone touching my mouth; my abuser used to put his hand over my mouth while he was raping me, if anybody was near enough to hear. Sometimes he did it so hard I felt like my teeth were being pushed inward out of my gums. Guys beeping at me as they pass in their cars, or any guy (especially older guys) hitting on me. Edited December 21, 2009 by Mandii Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dko Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 (edited) For me they are: White SUV type vehicles (mainly Ford Broncos) All cologne Not being able to move my arms and/or my hands Pretty much all males above 13 years old Their first name, (ironically both of my abusers had the same exact first name) Hearing the word "parasite" Seeing, hearing and reading anything to do with s*x, r*pe, pain, sickness and death Hearing children cry All forests and wooded areas, regardless of time of day Complete darkness in a open area ( I am actually very comfortable in small dark areas. ) Being outside in the open between dusk to dawn Having anything on my wrists, neck or ankles, other than extremely loose things, even then its too much sometimes Not having socks on when I go to sleep Not having thick covers to cover my entire body including my head when I goto sleep, irregardless of temperature People touching me, regardless of intent Thick Slavic accents from men Pictures of myself at any age, even now All Mirrors Entryway doors with glass in them Men making eye contact with me Having both my arms above my head with my hands being together Anyone touching my face Anyone touching my arms or hands on propose (I usually either freeze or freak out) Invasion of my personal space (I will freeze up, or quickly get out of the way) Hearing cars pulling up in the driveway or any driveway if I can hear it Hearing doors open and close 11:50pm, Dec. 19th the moment my mother died of cancer, leaving me alone to the full front of my father's abuse Hearing and seeing anything concerning the military (especially people in uniforms) this is all I can think of so far... Edited January 4, 2010 by dko Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ravennite Posted December 27, 2009 Share Posted December 27, 2009 (edited) with me its loud noise bright ligths anyone walking up behind me and touching me people laughing near me the sound of metal being crushed the sound of tires screching any one joking with me in a insuiting manner ( no that not a trigger it just p*sses me off) almost forgot clost doors even if they open , every house I live in they the first thing I remove and store in the garage ( my brother love to hid in them as a joke ) I can no longer watch NASCA races because of the weacks ,(if it show a dashcam of one I'll total freck out big time, and I wont come back to realily for a time, Edited January 4, 2010 by ravennite Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sankofa Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Swimming pools (I was inappropriately touched in a swimming pool) Bald men with goatee beards Male ejaculation 10 year old girls (My age the first time I was sexually assaulted) The smell and taste of rum (I had drunk a bottle of the stuff the night I was raped) Anyone coming up behind me and putting their hands on my waste or lower the phrase "You're so attractive when you're angry" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoenix418 Posted January 3, 2010 Share Posted January 3, 2010 My *weird* triggers are: -Massive Attack (The Band) -My car that I gave to my dad because I can't afford the payments right now. -Hands on my neck -Bud Light Labels -Air Mattresses -Durex Condoms -Full Length Mirrors -Country Roads -Anyone--a child or older person--with his name. -Quentin Tarantino -Whataburger -When my mother says "Good Girl" to the family dog. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gingie Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 -people touching my neck -people grabbing my wrists -being touched by strangers -the smell of wisky -the smell of body odour -knives (especially when guys play with them) -men with foreigh accents -muslim men -hawian shirts -showers -swimming pools -hearing his name -'i will allways love you' by whitney houston (the song) -unexpected physical contact -sometimes sex -performing oral sex -the dark -being outside alone at night -beig in a bikini -bing pinned down -someone holding both my wrists with one hand -being backed against a wall with people infront of me there are probably more but thats all i can think of for now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Megan01 Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 Some of my triggers that are "weird": - America's Next Top Model - Law and Order (Particularly SVU) even ads for it - Halloween (Particularly costumes and pumpkin carving) - Hearing C's name or J's name - Being alone with a man - Any type of male attention-- talking, flirting, perceived interest in me, etc. - Being in a crowded place - Being held or pinned down in any way (even the thought of it) - Camping - Having the flu - Being examined by a doctor - Being in a room that is too clean-- to the point of perfection - The ads for The Lovely Bones (These are Killing me right now) - Seeing girls who are seemingly innocent, and wondering if they have been victims of SA - Thinking or talking about being in a relationship - People talking about C, the state where he lives, the place where we worked together, or a possible upcoming "staff reunion" - Anything to do with Superman (C looked like him and had an extensive collection of Superman paraphernalia) - People talking about the college I attended when I was raped by J - Weighing myself or being weighed at the doctor's - Seeing any pictures of myself from the 3 year period I was with C - Mirrors Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pixiekitten Posted January 5, 2010 Share Posted January 5, 2010 - September - the word "pleasure" - the word "tool" - suburbs - his name - being at my parent's house - the song "dirty little secret" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zombiegirl Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 My weird triggers are: The sound of people walking on snow (this is a new one). I'm not having a great winter Holding hands Hearing people whistle. Not wolf whistling, but when someone whistles a tune or anything like that Crowds/busy places Hearing someone speak when I can't see them When anyone stares at me, or tries to flirt with me I have been known to get triggered by being asked for direcitons by a stranger... That's all I can think of right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeze Posted January 7, 2010 Share Posted January 7, 2010 Another trigger of mine is classical music. Every man who's ever hurt me worshipped it. I don't think I'll ever fully be able to trust any man who listens to it on a regular basis. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FearingTheFlies Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 (edited) Reading or seeing older siblings hug each other or *shiver* kiss on the cheek or something. It really brings back bad memories. Fire. For a reason I cannot possibly imagine, dead animals (aka roadkill or when pets die) I can't stand to even think about it. The undersides of beds or in closets (the unfortunate spots of my childhood sibling-abuse) The bleachers at car racetracks. (another popular spot for my adolescent wanderings) The dark. Watching movies with other people. (I have now taken to only watching them alone. this is my worst trigger except for maybe the first one I listed) Stuffed animal pandas. Zoos. Butterflies, moths, beetles, and ladybugs. Common contact (hugs, shaking hands, tickling, etc) TICKLING. ugh. Touching/brushing (even accidentally) against my stomach will make me jump and lash out. Boats in general. The ocean/lakes/ponds/rivers. The sound of people chewing/breaking ice. Waking up early. Sleeping on too-soft beds. Getting touched at all by any male member of my family, especially my father. (who never abused me... it's a mystery) Long driveways. Orange baseball caps. Slippers. Being looked at or called a "pet". Being treated as though I am immature in some way. Not keeping my daily ritual of drinking several cans of soda. Funerals and Weddings. Flashy cars. Mention of RVs, motorhomes, trailers, or campers. As you can see... I have a lot of triggers. I'm kinda ashamed... now I feel exceptionally weak and foolish. Edited January 18, 2010 by FearingTheFlies Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
liberal Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 the smell of fresh cut grass the smell of cigars sometimes the smell of body odor... anybody else have lots of... smell... triggers??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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